14 Men Who Are Searching For Their Soulmate Share Their Green Flags

“Someone who ACTUALLY is okay with their man being emotionally honest and open. A lot of women say they want that, but what they really want is a guy who’ll call things cute and shed a single manly tear at Titanic, but will say ‘well that’s embarrassing’ if he actually cries over childhood trauma or something. If you’re mature and healthy enough to realize emotional honestly comes with awkward and difficult things that you probably don’t want to deal with, but will deal with anyway, then that’s a massive green flag.” — JackofScarlets

“Thoughtfulness. When a partner takes time to genuinely think about you and the things you like/dislike and thinks about things from your perspective, it’s about the greenest flag I can think of.” — shockwave_supernova

“Us vs the problem mentality. Aka, instead of blaming you or herself for issues that inevitably will arise, she communicates with you in a way that focuses on what the issue is and how you can work together to solve it.” — KanadeKanashi

“Sense of humor. Though many say this and mean laughing at my jokes, but I want to be laughing at her jokes and quick wit.” — PrayForMojo_

“An ability to acknowledge her flaws and shortcomings. Someone who can not see them or projects them on others is an absolute relationship killer.” — Background-Heat740

“Emotional and financial independence. I’d rather be wanted than needed.” — ToadBearMaster

“She is willing to try new things with you that are related to what you enjoy. Also, guys, this goes both ways. If your woman is interested in something, try it out with her.” — americansherlock201

“To be honest, the biggest green flag I’ve experienced is if she does things for you. No one will spend money on things they don’t have, want, or need. If she puts together anything, buys something for you, makes you homemade food, sacrifices to make time to come see you is a huge giveaway she’s really into you and wants something amazing together. She desires you and that is much stronger than her liking you.” — PunchOX

“Emotional intelligence, that will apply for men as well. Anyone who takes the time to wonder WHY they feel a certain way vs acting on it out of instinct is a gift. I’ve never been in a relationship before like this in my life, we can talk anything out peacefully, no arguments in years, no insults or hurt feelings, emotional intelligence is the key.” — MolagMoProblems

“She asks questions about you to genuinely understand who you are as a person, not just what you do for work and other surface level topics.” — Cammy7s

“When I cried in front of her (my cat died) and she just hugged me and comforted me. Exes before would ridicule me.” — SongbirdofHylia

“She respects your hobbies and interests. Does not have to be into them herself, but knows they are important to you. I’m in my late 40s and my wife is cool with my weekly D&D sessions with the homies and late night gaming sessions – unfortunately not all are in the same boat.” — crazyrich

“Respect is a big one. I’m not dating anyone shallow, abusive, or disrespectful to other people. It’s a big indicator of something flawed in their personality. The biggest one for me though, and this is gonna sound weird, is when they text you back after the date ends. This isn’t to say the guy shouldn’t text back either, but seeing it from the other perspective really enforces the belief that they’re interested in seeing you again.” — LoneRedditor123

“Saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Aka, communication. I’m not a mind reader, please just talk like a normal person. I don’t pick up on hinting or anything like that.” — osha_unapproved