14 Relationship Red Flags To Avoid In 2023

“Still messages exes while simultaneously talking shit about them.” — Chrrr91

“For me a big one is if all his exes are ‘crazy.’ That tells me one of a few things: 1) He’s lying, possibly to cover up for cheating or abuse, and trying to discredit them in advance. 2) He’s immature and can’t accept a mutual breakup like ‘we wanted different things’ or ‘we grew apart.’ 3) He thinks all women are crazy. 4) He is drawn to partners who are problematic. Perhaps all his exes were involved in criminal activity or heavy drug use or something. This one I can forgive if he’s gotten away from that lifestyle. 5) He has gaslit all his partners or been emotionally abusive and they all eventually had breakdowns as a result of his abuse. I just don’t think it’s worth taking a chance with a guy who makes this claim.” — blueberry_pandas

“Talking about their first love, claiming they’ll always love them while trying to be in a relationship with you.” — Ashamed_Track_3222

“Being lazy or not carrying your own weight or being helpful is a red flag. After a certain point it becomes disrespectful.” — Usual_Ice_186

“Getting angry over any little inconvenience. I shouldn’t have to help you control your emotions.” — Jhondoesmokes

“Accountability. If you can’t accept when you’re wrong or apologize then I’m out. I don’t have time for the mental gymnastics you have to jump through to justify your shitty behavior.” — Tathanor

“There’s a saying my mom used to say, I don’t know where she got it from but it’s ‘if a guy isn’t nice to anyone but you, he isn’t nice’ which means that like, if he’s rude to waitstaff, or is a general a douche to anyone else, he’s still a douche.” — Ifoughtgodbehind711

“People who have zero sense of humor. You’ve got to have a laugh at some stage of the day at work, school, hobbies, etc anywhere.” — BirdyGeee

“If they’re mean to pets. Their pet, your pet, a friend’s pet. Some of the worst people I’ve ever known showed signs early when they kicked a cat or hit a dog. Some of the best people I know would bleed for their pets.” — the_idea_pig

“If all of your friends, or your trusted family members, hate your boyfriend/girlfriend. Often, they can see things about your SO that you can’t.” — QuietDragonFly57

“People who try to get close to you too fast, with too much intensity. From what I’ve experienced, they usually want something from you or want to manipulate you.” — pinkiscosmic

“Not cleaning your house and car. Like never. At least clean it once a month and not just let it pile with nowhere to even step on.” — YourRoyalGarbageness

“What they say and what they do don’t match up (actions will speak louder than words, talk is cheap).” — throwaway_201135

“If the person wants you to spend all of your time with them. May seen endearing, especially in the honeymoon phase, but people often do this to isolate you from friends and family.” — Platinum-Light777