15 Divorced Couples Reveal The Red Flag They Shouldn’t Have Ignored

Don’t overlook red flags because you could save yourself a lot of trouble. Here are some red flags that divorced people wish they paid more attention to before walking down the aisle:

“He always wanted me to take control of things. I thought it was endearing at first but then I found out he’s just incapable of doing anything on his own.” — NeverStickEmTwice

“I enjoyed my time away from him more than time with him. I would get super depressed when I knew he was going to be home from work soon. I brushed it off as being ‘antisocial’ or ‘independent.’ But now I’m with someone who I’m still excited to see every single day after 7 years and I’m still antisocial and independent.” — Snukes42Q

“Lies about small seemingly insignificant things, but often. If they can lie about something small, but often, they definitely can lie when it’s something big.” — savemoney2121

“My wife and I are not divorced but my best friend got divorced this year. They divorced over not wanting and wanting to have a child. TALK ABOUT THIS STUFF BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED. If you do not agree on it then end the relationship early. Don’t think that you can change her or him.” — methmouthjuggalo

“She was very jealous of anything I accomplished. It was me vs her in her mind. Plus, she blamed me for her shortcomings and situations, never took responsibility for things happening in her life, regardless of her power to change them.” — zchrydvd

“We were best friends with little bedroom chemistry.” — noopibean

“Acted completely single even though he was in a committed relationship. We had a great relationship so I trusted completely. After we had kids and he wasn’t the center of the world, he went off the deep end with serial cheating. I have moved on and happily remarried. He is a narcissist and the happier I am, the angrier he becomes. It’s my karma. “ — TraceyJN

“All the excuses he made for everything sounded like bullshit because they were bullshit. I should’ve trusted my gut.” — JustLetMeGetAName

“My wife cheated on every single long term partner she ever had. She cheated on her first boyfriend with his brother. And looking back now, she would talk about it almost as if she was proud of it… as if she thought they deserved it. Plot twist: she cheated on me as well.” — throwawayventing2018

“Bad credit. I knew hers wasn’t good, but I didn’t realize HOW bad it was until after we got married. I mean RIGHT after. When we showed up, with all of our shit in a moving truck and the apartment community manager wouldn’t give us our key because she had a vehicle repo on her credit that she didn’t mention. I had to call my parents from their office and have them wire the money to the bank and wait for confirmation before we could move in. Fuck her for not telling me and fuck the apartment manager for not checking before we got there.” — kellydean1

“Her family. I thought a rose had grown from shit. I was wrong. It was a shit garden that grew nothing else.” — dummystupid

“A few friends who knew her told me, ‘Don’t do it. She’s a liar.’ In hindsight they were totally right.” — tank_of_happiness

“A couple that took me a while to notice were: 1. He controlled MY money and 2. He was an angry drunk.” — Lyekkat

“Before we got married, his mom said, ‘If you ever get divorced, we will know it was because of him and not you.’ Huge red flag, and all I thought was, ‘Wow, what a mean thing to say about your own son!'” — dragonheartstring1

“I married my first wife extremely quickly. She wanted to get married, I didn’t want to break up. The day of my wedding, my friends asked me how I was feeling, and my response was ‘Well, I can always get divorced.’ Don’t settle. Marry someone you really, truly love and can see spending your life wife. That you’ll still want to hang out with when you’re both old. I’m remarried, and it makes the world of difference. When you’re with the right person, you know it. If you don’t know it, you probably aren’t with the right person.” — Bizzle_worldwide