15 People Share Their Biggest Dating Dealbreakers (Aside From Cheating)

Modern dating is tricky to navigate. In order to help you out, here are some of the biggest dating dealbreakers (aside from cheating):

“Indifference. If I love you, I’m going to try to make an effort to show you. Forever. If it’s not working, I’m going to try to understand why it’s not working, and figure out if there’s something I can do differently. If you’re not willing to meet me half way on that? Deal-breaker. (In my experience this is quite common) Also, I have found that this kind of apathy tends to infect the rest of that person’s life. Like – they don’t live life with any real passion.” — supermodern

“Insecurity. Seriously, if you can’t deal with your partner not texting you for a few hours before you think he/she’s cheating on you, I don’t think you should be in a relationship. Gotta work on yourself before you can be a good partner to someone else.” — Midnight_arpeggio

“Not being able to say sorry/resolve problems level-headedly. If I can’t bring you an issue without getting yelled at or you making yourself the victim, forget it.” — HarpyCisco

“Tests. Mature adults do not run tests on their partner’s loyalty, responsibility, kindness, spirituality, whatever the hell. That shit is for children playing house.” — tajtooseey

“Having clashing ideas of how you’d want to spend the rest of your lives.” — FlemishFlamingo

“Denying my faults and insisting I’m perfect. Might sound weird, but it puts on a crazy amount of pressure on you.” — xdeathbyskittlesx

“Lack of conscientiousness. Being inconsiderate, entitled, and selfish makes for a burdensome partner.” — [deleted]

“Really bad jealousy towards the opposite sex.” — [deleted]

“Adding unnecessary stress to things that have no need at all for stress. Getting at text at work: ‘Hey, can we talk later? It’s kinda important,’ only to find out she just wants you to know she’s going to a movie with her friend in 3 days.” — EliteVoodoo1776

“Insulting and otherwise shaming the partner for simply having an opinion/preference different than theirs.” — [deleted]

“Over involved parents.” — zeta212

“For me (I’m a guy) is a woman who isn’t an equal partner. I think women should initiate dates, physical intimacy, and pay for things at equal amounts. When a woman doesn’t even bother offering or ever initiating things, I lose interest really quickly. Now of course, I’m rational about it. If I’m dating a woman who like loses her job soon after we start dating, I won’t dump her because she isn’t offering to pay for dinners out. But, I still think she has an obligation to initiate and maybe plan things. You are broke, no problem, but maybe plan a date in the park or something.” — illini02

“Not a lifelong learner. If they’re not curious, wanting to know more, and happy with what they know, that’s a no from me.” — UltimateAnswer42

“No other close relationship. As in they’re not close to their family and do not have any close friends. Learnt this one the hard way, I was my ex’s parent, friend and partner. It’s a lot to bear.” — LeWisePete

“Heavy drugs. I mean, smoking a joint isn’t a dealbreaker but if you’re into the heavy stuff and using on a semi-regular to regular basis, then that is a no-go.” — Booner999