16 People Share Their Secret Relationship Fears (That Are Super Common)

It’s natural to be scared of getting attached. After all, there’s so much that could go wrong in a relationship. Here are some super common relationship fears to prove you aren’t alone in feeling this way:

“I’m scared that I’ll smother someone in affection and it’ll turn them off from me. I’ve always felt emotions strongly, and sometimes I have to reign it back, but I worry that I’ll fall for someone hard and they won’t have the same reaction.” — BaByJeZuZ012

“I’m scared of having an amazing relationship and loving each other a lot but having a fundamental incompatibility which means you don’t have a future together and at some point you have to make the decision to break up despite nothing being wrong.” — MakingYouMad

“I’m scared that they’ll meet someone better than me. It’s happened far too often and I don’t know if I could ever not have that thought in the back of my mind.” — Waniou

“I’m scared that they don’t like me back, even if it is only a platonic relationship. I worry every day that my friends only hang out with me because they feel bad for me. If I don’t get enough attention in a relationship then I start to panic and wonder if it’s one-sided.” — bixelss

“I’m scared that the tiny things that the other person does, the weird habits which you don’t understand, which seem adorable or quirky initially, might start grating on you over time. That you’ll run out of things to say one day and you will not not want to know how their day went or what they’re up to. That going out on dates will just be a formality because it is a familiar and convenient ritual, and you have adjusted to it now even though you don’t care about meeting.” — InnocuousCyanide

“I’m scared that they’ll lose interest or stop being attracted to me.” — theatregirl2001

“I’m scared that things I told him in confidence will no longer be kept to himself.” — bllaaushpibu

“I’m scared that she’ll notice the things I’m insecure about and leave me.” — drayd38

“I’m scared that I’ve already met and lost the love of my life (which is something I didn’t believe in before I met her). I worry that I’ll never value any relationship enough as it will always feel like a consolation prize and that whoever I’m with will sense that and it will tear us apart. I crave intimacy like any human being but fear it will cause too much pain for everyone involved.” — TellMeHowImWrong

“I’m scared that it will become abusive like my first long term relationship.” – NumerousAnybody

“I’m scared of losing my independence and not being able to do what I want, when I want. Guess that’s why I’ve been single for so long and don’t really want a relationship.” — DeathSpiral321

“I’m scared that the other is person playing me/cheating on me. That happened once when I was heavily interested in a person and was wanting to move forward in our relationship. It hurt me when I found out and took a long time to get over.” — Elfslayer95

“I’m scared of being emotionally invested into something that might not work.” — [deleted]

“I’m scared of missing out on something better.” — LachsAtoll003

“I’m scared of wasting my time. Like… is this worth the time and energy I put into it? Will this be worth it?” — Sourdough85