4 Birth Months Great At Resolving Conflicts

Although many people seem to thrive on conflict, others prefer to maintain harmony. And although those who love to fight, argue, bicker, and bitch seem obsessed with “winning,” it’s usually those who seek common ground who tend to wind up more successful in the long run. Some people will say the nastiest things or make the most cutthroat moves to gain a tactical advantage, but ironically, this usually winds up backfiring and working against them.

Those who always seek peace rather than war, who long for unity rather than division, who look for solutions rather than problems, also wind up happy rather than sad and contented rather than frustrated.

Here are the four great peacekeepers of the year, the signs who always wonder why we can’t all just get along. The top two are air sign natives, making them experts at communicating. There are no fire sign natives on here—they’re just too hot-tempered.

1. October

It makes sense that the Scales would be the go-to sign when you’re seeking balance, fairness, and equity during any dispute. It’s extra-helpful that those born in October are ruled by Venus, which gives them an extra dash of judiciousness and restraint. In romantic relationships, they’d rather stay up all night seeking a resolution than go to bed angry. In friendships, they’d rather solve a problem sooner than later so that it doesn’t metastasize. In both financial and political matters, they are expert negotiators, mediators, and diplomats. When things get stormy, they are the eye of the hurricane.

2. February

Low-key, even-keeled, and natural-born drama-haters, those born in February are ruled by Saturn, which makes them good at handling any situation that life throws at them. Problem-solvers rather than troublemakers, they seek harmony rather than chaos, peace rather than war, and silence rather than noise. They have a Zen-like ability never to get sucked into an argument. They make the best coaches and managers, because when they offer advice, it never comes off like they’re placing the blame on you. Their intuition allows them to always know the right thing to say, the encouraging words that feel like cool water thrown on a fire rather than gasoline. They are effortlessly humanitarian but will probably cringe if you remind them of how decent and nice they are.

3. July

A nonconfrontational water sign, the Crab is widely known as one of the emotional signs, but not when it comes to conflict. Because they always have a kind and encouraging word to say, they are skilled at making people feel heard and comfortable in confiding in them. They are black belts in mental judo and have an enviable skill in using your own aggression against you. Even if you routinely insult them and go for the jugular at the first sign of a disagreement, those born in July have an unmatched ability to make you feel bad about it. And when you apologize, they say it’s no big deal—which makes you feel even worse.

4. January

A mutable Earth sign, those born in January are ruled by Saturn, which gives them an inner tranquility that prevents them from being too impulsive. They seem to be born wise and never go through a childish phase—even as infants, they come off like Baby Yoda. Even if you’re a hotheaded, argumentative type, you can know someone born in January for decades and never have an argument with them. If you can’t get along with them, no third party that knows them even bothers to hear the details—they just assume it’s your fault. They are never interested in “winning” an argument, because they feel that if they even allow it to escalate into an argument, everyone loses.