4 Things Only People Who Aren’t Insecure About Their Partner Understand About Relationships

Not everyone is completely secure in love. There can be trust issues, doubts, fights, and so much more that can create problem areas in a relationship.

People who are secure in their relationships understand these four things:

Sometimes space is necessary and okay.

You don’t have to do everything together all of the time. Wanting to spend time apart every once in a while is very normal and very okay. If you want to check out a new bookstore but your partner doesn’t, that’s okay. If your partner wants to go to the gym but you don’t, that’s okay. It’s okay to do your thing while they do theirs. This just means you’re not anxiously dependent on your partner. You feel okay enough doing things by yourself.

Spending time apart doesn’t mean that they’re cheating or doing something bad. Having other plans doesn’t mean they like — or love — you any less.

Fighting is normal.

No relationship is perfect. There will be arguments from time to time and that is okay. Healthy, even. It’s okay to have an occasional argument over something you disagree on — it shows that you care. There’s a level of comfort in people who aren’t afraid to go head-to-head in their relationships, having tough conversations every once in a while. You fight right, fairly, and respectfully because it always makes you better at the end of it.

If you’re constantly fighting, though, that’s a different story — and a bad one.

It should be easy to be yourself around them.

In an emotionally and physically secure relationship, you and your partner feel safe enough to be yourselves. You feel comfortable enough talking about if you’re upset, anxious, concerned, or frustrated, because you know they won’t judge or dismiss you for feeling that way. You have no problem dancing that dance when you’re in a good mood or eating that weird food combination people typically judge you for. You’ve accepted each other for your quirks and faults and beauty and goodness and everything in between.

Love isn’t enough.

Relationships are so much more than just love and sex. It’s about trust and commitment. It’s about mutual respect and understanding of one another. It’s about patience. It’s about communication and a willingness to work through challenges together.