5 Comforting Reminders Anyone In A Situationship Needs To Hear Right Now
Your feelings are valid.
With a situationship being undefined, it’s so damn easy to believe that having strong feelings for the other person is totally nonsensical. After all, because the relationship isn’t official, you feel like it’s a little crazy that you have fallen so hard for someone who wasn’t there to catch you.
Here’s the thing, though: Your feelings are valid, and they are valid because you’re experiencing them. You don’t need to come up with some logical conclusion to explain your emotions. You just need to feel them and understand that you can still feel something deep and true and real for someone without labels attached.
It’s okay to want more.
It’s okay to want more. And it’s okay to ask for more, too. Your truth deserves to be honored and your feelings deserve to be acknowledged and heard.
What isn’t okay, though, is hanging on and on and on when your situationship has shown or flat out told you that they are unable or unwilling to give you what you are looking for. If this is the case, please know you don’t have to settle for less-than.
With that being said…
You’re allowed to walk away if it is hurting too much to hang on.
And sometimes, walking away is really the only thing you can do. Because if someone tells you they’re not ready for a relationship, you need to believe them.
Indecision is a decision, and if they aren’t actively deciding on you, understand it’s a no. Luckily, you still have a choice, too, and that choice is yourself.
Sometimes, you can get caught up in the idea that you’re being too demanding or not giving your situationship enough time to commit. But the truth of the matter is that you’re not being unreasonable by putting your foot down to take the first step to walk away. Because indecision is a decision, and if they aren’t actively deciding it’s you, then you need to know that it probably never will be. But you still have a choice, too, and that choice is yourself.
You deserve the real thing.
So, stop settling for situationships and go find the love you want and deserve. It’s out there. And it’s ready for you when you are ready to let it in.