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5 Concrete Signs He’s Emotionally Checked Out Of The Relationship

Here are five signs heโ€™s emotionally checking out of the relationship.

1. Heโ€™s super pre-occupied with his phone.

When youโ€™re together, it doesnโ€™t really feel like heโ€™s there because heโ€™s completely enthralled by his phone. Heโ€™s more interested in texting his friends, scrolling on social media, and reading random articles than trying to bond and spend quality time with you. It almost feels as though heโ€™s a roommate you happen to have sex with on occassion.

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2. Your sex life is dwindling.

Sex is becoming less and less frequent. And when you are intimate, it feels like an obligation more than anything. Youโ€™re just not connecting in the same way as you used to.

3. Heโ€™s dismissive.

If heโ€™s emotionally checking out of the relationship, he may begin invalidating or dismissing your feelings because he is his investment in your relationship is waning. After all, a healthy, lasting relationship requires emotional safety and the sharing of feelings. And if he no longer is making you feel as though youโ€™re being heard and cared for, it might be because heโ€™s pushing you away emotionally.

4. He isnโ€™t prioritizing you and your relationship.

Something always seems to be coming up lately. Heโ€™s stopped making an effort to plan dates and outings together. If you want to do anything with him, itโ€™s up to you to make sure it happens. Your relationship is beginning to be incredibly one-sided.

5. Your feelings havenโ€™t changed (but something within your relationship definitely has).

You know your feelings, communication, effort, and commitment havenโ€™t changed. The only shift has been in his energy and behavior. In other words, something is just off with him and youโ€™re not sure what that might be.

While all relationships go through ebbs and flows, you know when someone is pulling away and when something isnโ€™t right. The best thing you can do is talk to him about what is going on and see if you can resolve it.