5 Concrete Signs You’re Giving Too Much In Your Relationship

We’ve all been there. The unbalanced relationships. One is way more invested, way more in love, way more caring about this partnership than the other. But how do you know you’re giving too much in a relationship so you can hopefully stop? Here are the concrete signs. If you fit all five signs, then you might want to rethink this relationship entirely. You’re worth fighting for.

1. It feels like if you don’t do something, they could leave you.

It’s the quiet fear that they have one foot out the door. They’re ready to leave you, and if you just do take over their chores or take on the emotional load, they’ll stay. Of course, that fear means you’ll do increasingly more and more, give far too much, just to keep them. Babe, that’s not a healthy way to be in a relationship.

2. You can’t picture them doing the same for you.

There isn’t necessarily anything wrong with doing a lot for your partner. If it’s reciprocated, it shows a deep appreciation going both ways. But if you’re the only one giving your all, it’ll be hard to picture them doing even half of what you do for them. Perhaps you should save the effort for someone who would do the same.

3. You can’t get comfortable.

You know you’re in the right relationship when you feel comfortable just being yourself. Yet in this one, you can never quite find that sweet spot.

4. Your friends are trying to tell you something.

You’ve brought up your relationship before. Maybe your friends have even met your partner. What are their reactions when you talk about them? Are they supportive? If you tell them about the car you bought your partner or how you cleaned their entire apartment, how do you friends react? They’ll either be subtle in their disapproval or just tell it to you straight that you deserve so much better.

5. You feel compelled to give more and more.

You’ve probably been hoping that you’ll find the perfect balance. Still, you keep feeling like if you gave more, they’d want to stay more, to be with you more, to finally do the same for you. That’s not how it works, though. The more you give without them having to do anything in return, the more you’ll lose yourself. And the more they’ll take. Until finally, there’s nothing left for you to give. That’s when you’ll break.