6 Concrete Signs You Don’t Feel Supported Enough In Your Relationship

Your partner is supposed to support and encourage you. They’re supposed to make you feel like you’re capable of accomplishing anything because they believe in you even more than you believe in yourself. They should never make you doubt yourself or talk you out of pursuing your big dreams. Here are the signs you don’t feel supported enough in your relationship:

You are quietly working toward achieving your dreams.

But you never speak to your partner about it. You never explain how much work you’ve been putting into your goals. You never explain just how much your passions mean to you. Even though you’re thinking about this all the time, you never open up to them about it because you feel like they’ll undermine you or make fun of you. You don’t trust them with such sensitive information – which is a problem because your partner should be the first person you want to share with. Not the last.

You keep most of your problems to yourself.

When your struggling, your person is the one you should lean on. You should feel comfortable opening up to them about your issues and leaning on their shoulder while you cry. If you feel like you can’t even talk to them about your problems, because they’ll act like you’re overreacting or will start listing out ways that their life is harder than yours, then you’re not getting the support you need. Your person should respect your thoughts and feelings, and listen closely to them. They should make you feel like you can come to them, with anything at all.

You never share your wins with them.

When you’re excited about an achievement, your person should be the first person to congratulate you. They should be as thrilled as you are about what’s happening. You shouldn’t avoid telling them about your wins because you’re worried they will burst your bubble or will be jealous and ruin your good mood. Your partner is never supposed to feel like the enemy. They’re supposed to be on your side. Your wins are their wins.

You make every single decision on your own.

While maintaining your independence is important, your person is supposed to be your teammate. You should feel comfortable talking through scenarios with them. You should be able to get their opinion and take it into consideration before making big decisions, especially ones that will also impact them. If you feel like you’re in this alone, then the relationship isn’t giving you what you need. You aren’t getting real, concrete support.

They aren’t helpful in little, everyday ways.

Your partner should be splitting the chores with you. They should be lowering your workload, not piling onto it. If you don’t feel supported in these little ways, then you’re going to stop relying on them in bigger ways too. It’s only a matter of time.

They point out your flaws instead of focusing on your strengths.

Your partner should make you feel like anything is possible, like you can conquer any challenge. If they’re achieving the opposite results, and making you feel even worse about yourself, then you’re in the wrong relationship. You deserve someone who makes you feel strong and fierce.