Sometimes, you’re the reason why you aren’t where you want to be in life. You need to make sure that you’re betting on yourself and giving yourself a real chance or your dreams are never going to become a reality. Here are a few concrete signs that you’ve been getting in your own way lately:
You assume you’re going to fail before even making an attempt.
Your self-confidence is so low that you assume everything you set out to do is going to end in disaster. You never even let yourself try because you’re worried about getting rejected, being disappointed, and feeling like a failure. But you can’t count yourself out too early. You can’t assume trying would be pointless because you’re never going to succeed anyway. You need to have a little more faith in yourself. You need to trust that you are smart enough and talented enough to get the job done.
You aren’t speaking up about what you want.
You shouldn’t be afraid to talk about your big dreams. Talking about them could lead to friends encouraging you. Or holding you accountable so you actually stick to the plans that you’ve set for yourself. If you aren’t comfortable talking to others about them, you should at least admit these dreams to yourself. Don’t lie to yourself about what you want. Don’t pretend you’re happy with the way things are now. Voicing what you want is the first step toward achieving it.
You keep waiting for the right moment to arrive.
You can’t keep waiting for the perfect moment to start on this journey or you’re going to be waiting forever. You’re always going to be able to come up with an excuse to wait longer if you let yourself. After all, life is messy. Timing will never be one thousand percent right. But if this means enough to you, you have to do it anyway. No more procrastinating.
You’re paying too much attention to timelines.
If you are always worried about reaching certain dreams by certain ages, you’re going to psych yourself out. Not everyone reaches success by thirty. Despite the voice in the back of your head warning you it’s too late to achieve our dreams or to pivot and try something new, that’s not true. You aren’t too old to chase after what you want. Stop making excuses. Stop giving yourself outs so you don’t have to put in the work. Just go for it.
You’re letting other people make your decisions for you.
While it’s fine to ask people you trust for their advice, you don’t want to take it as law. They don’t know the right move for you. Only you know what is best for yourself. Only you can decide where your path is headed. Don’t let their doubts become your own.
You choose the easier path every time.
While it’s tempting to stick to your nice, comfortable life, you don’t want to limit yourself. You don’t want to settle because you’re scared this is as good as it gets. You need to believe in yourself. Take a risk on yourself. You’ll regret it if you don’t.