Jakob Wandel

6 Concrete Signs You’re In A ‘Flirtationship’

A “flirtationship” is a dynamic that forms between two friends. Basically, it is when there is evident attraction and clear interest in one another, with tons of flirting and sexual tension, but no will to ever actually act on these feelings. A flirtationship can be confusing, frustrating, and hurtful all at once.

With that said, here are six concrete signs you’re in a flirtationship.

1. You’re really good friends.

Like, really good friends. You have a strong, sincere connection. You trust each other deeply. You also have a ton of fun together. They’re an integral part of your support system. That said, there is definite chemistry. You flirt all the time. But you don’t want to lose them, so you’ve never gone beyond witty banter or cuddling.

2. People always assume you’re dating when they first meet you two together.

For example, if you’re out and about, people you’re just meeting who see you two together just assume you’re together. You then have to quickly explain that you’re just really good friends. (You can tell the others never fully believe you, though.)

3. Mutual friends are always asking what’s going on between you both.

Which make sense! The sexual tension is palpable and you two do get along so damn well. Your friends cannot comprehend how you both just won’t try to date. And honestly? You can’t fully explain yourselves either.

4. You’ve never been intimate with one another (even though there have been close calls).

Unlike a situationship, you’ve never made out or slept together. However, there have definitely been some close calls, maybe when you’re out drinking at the bar or having a movie night cuddling at home. With them, it’s always almost but not quite.

5. You text each other. All. The. Time.

In fact, whenever your phone buzzes, you automatically assume it’s them because you are constantly texting one another.

6. It feels as though there is something more than friendship between you both (but you can’t exactly say what that “more” actually is).

You can’t define what they mean to you, or what you mean to them, but you know deep down it’s for sure beyond friendship. You know there is something else there. But you’re too afraid to pursue it, and it appears that they are feeling the same way.