7 Concrete Signs They’re Putting In The Effort To Love You Right

You don’t want to settle for a one-sided relationship where you’re stuck doing all the work. In a healthy, committed relationship, you should both be putting in the work to keep your connection strong. You should both be showing your love and appreciation every single day. Here are some concrete signs they’re putting in the effort to love you right:

They actively try to understand problems and solve them instead of vaguely promising it won’t happen again.

When you bring up a problem in the relationship, they aren’t going to grow defensive and accuse you of overreacting. They are going to take your emotions seriously. More than that, they are going to take active steps to fix the problem. An apology isn’t enough to them. They want to make sure the problem genuinely disappears, that you never feel that type of pain again.

They do their fair share of emotional labor.

You aren’t the only one sending texts or planning dates or opening up a dialogue about your relationship. They speak freely about their feelings, their hopes, and their expectations so that you are always on the same page. So that your relationship doesn’t turn into a guessing game.

They are there for you, even when you’re in a terrible mood.

They don’t only want to hang out when you’re in a happy-go-lucky mood. They are going to stick around when life gets tough. Instead of running away when you shed a tear, they will pull you closer. They will comfort you and ask you what’s wrong. They will be there for you, physically and emotionally.  

They actively engage in conversations and contribute as much as you do.

You don’t feel like you’re speaking to a brick wall on dates or over the phone because they are easy to talk to. They tell you stories about their past and ask you questions about yours. They genuinely want to get to know you better, and they want you to know the real them as well.

They actively listen and remember the little things you say.

You don’t have to repeat yourself around them. They remember the stories you tell, the music you play, and the snacks that you always keep in your fridge. They are attentive and pick up on the little details about you, so that they can love you the right way.

They are vocal about their feelings for you.

They don’t leave you wondering whether they still care because they say the words every single day. They tell you how much they love you, how proud they are of everything you’ve accomplished, and how lucky they feel to have you in their life. They never leave important words unspoken.

They are eternally trying to grow into a better person and partner.

They understand that they are a work in progress, and that they are going to make mistakes from time to time, but they are always putting in the effort to make you happy. They are trying their hardest to love you right each and every day – and there’s not much more you can ask for than that.