7 Green Flags That Prove They’ll Put Effort Into The Relationship
You don’t want to end up in a relationship with someone who isn’t doing their fair share. You don’t want to be stuck with the bulk of the work because they aren’t contributing. Here are a few green flags that the person you’ve been talking to is actually going to put as much effort into the relationship as you are:
There’s always a healthy back-and-forth when it comes to conversations. You’re not always the person initiating conversations. They text first too. They come up with conversation topics too. It’s hard to say who’s the one who texts more or talks more because you’re both contributing a lot to conversations. This person is answering questions and asking you questions. They’re keeping you filled in about their life while showing interest in your life.
They come up with plenty of suggestions. Even if you’re usually the one who takes the lead, it’s not like they are expecting you to do all the work. They don’t force you to come up with weekend plans, and ignore you if you don’t come up with something. They mention cool restaurants and bars and concerts that they think you would like. They don’t sit quietly while you’re struggling to figure out what the hell to do with them. They work with you as a team.
They actually involve you in their life. They invite you out with their friends. They ask you over for dinner with their family and spend the holidays with you. They tell you about their hobbies and ask you about yours. They haven’t created a strict separation between their life with you and the rest of their life. They involve you in every piece of their world.
They remember the little things you tell them. When you speak, they aren’t staring at their phone or waiting for their turn to talk. They’re paying close attention to what you say and remembering the details. They are committing your favorite things to memory because they intend on keeping you in their life for a long time.
They volunteer to help you out. You don’t have to ask them to do something fifty times. In fact, sometimes you don’t even have to ask them once. When they notice that you’re struggling or stressed, they will willingly help you out. They will do whatever it takes to make your day a little brighter, even when it’s an inconvenience to them.
They buy you thoughtful gifts. Whether they’re splurging on jewelry or are picking up your favorite candy from the store on the way to your place, they’re always thinking about you. They’re always doing nice things for you, even when you least expect it.
They listen closely to your problems. When you have a complaint about their behavior, whether it’s big or small, they pay attention. Instead of acting defensive or getting into an argument with you, they will apologize and try to do better in the future. They will take your thoughts seriously because they take this relationship seriously.