7 Green Flags That You Should Get Back Together With Your Ex

Exes are exes for a reason. So you shouldn’t get back together unless there’s a really good reason, unless you have both changed for the better and are ready for a real commitment this time. Here are some green flags that you should actually consider getting back together with your ex:

They’ve changed for the better. The problems that were plaguing your relationship the last time you were together aren’t going to be an issue anymore because they have changed. They have grown. They have fixed whatever was wrong previously. And you have changed, too. You have both grown into stronger, more well-rounded people while you were apart.

They aren’t pressuring you to get back together. They are giving you time to think the decision through – and if you say no, they are going to respect it. They aren’t going to guilt trip you into taking them back. They aren’t going to throw every nice thing they’ve done into your face. They want whatever you want because they genuinely care about your happiness.

You are imagining the same type of future together. You are on the same page about where the relationship would be going if you got back together. You aren’t going to give up your big dreams for them and they aren’t going to give up their big dreams for you because your dreams are the same. You both want to live in the same place, raise the same amount of kids, and have the same type of life. No one is going to resent the other because your futures align.

They are owning up to their past mistakes. They aren’t pretending that you don’t have history because you do. They’ve made mistakes in the past and they are willing to admit it. They are willing to apologize and promise that they will do better in the future. And their actions match their words this time. They actually mean what they say.

You genuinely forgive them. If you haven’t been able to move past what they put you through before, you’re never going to work as a couple. You can’t throw their mistakes back in their face in future fights if you’re going to start fresh. You actually need to forgive them if you want this relationship to work. And if you can’t get there, then you should be with someone new.

You like who you are when you’re around them. You don’t want to get back together if they always bring out your toxic side, if you’re going to fall back into the same old patterns. But if you like who you are around them, if you genuinely make each other happy, then you can consider giving them another shot.

You trust them to do right by you. You genuinely believe that they have your best interest at heart. You genuinely think that they’re on your side, that they’re willing to put in the work, and that they would never betray you. And they feel the same about you.