7 Signs Your Heart Is Begging You To Leave Them

If you don’t want to be with them, then break up with them. It’s that simple, but for some reason, our hearts love to complicate things. If you’ve been confused about whether leaving is really going to make you happier, here are a few signs that it’s the right thing to do – for yourself and for them:

You feel more comfortable when they aren’t in the room. It’s natural to want space in a relationship. You can’t be together every second of every day – but the time you spend together should bring you joy. If you’re counting down the seconds until they’re gone, and dreading how much longer you have on your own until they walk back in the room, something is wrong. You’re not where you’re supposed to be.

You feel like you’re slowly losing pieces of yourself. Your person shouldn’t be holding you back. They shouldn’t be discouraging you from following your dreams, hanging out with your friends, or engaging in your favorite hobbies. If you feel like you can’t be your true self around them, like they are anchoring you in place, then you shouldn’t be with them. The right person will support you, not suffocate you.

You care more about losing their benefits than losing them as a person. You can imagine a life without them, but you’re sticking around because you don’t want to lose your relationship status or your apartment or your means of paying the other half of the rent. Even though life might be trickier to navigate on your own, you can’t stay with someone because of the things they provide. You should only stay for them.

You’ve been tempted to pursue other people. Crushes are a natural part of being human, but if you’re spending every waking moment daydreaming about someone else, that’s a problem. Your partner deserves your full heart, your full attention, your full trust. If you can’t give that to them, then you should let them go. Don’t lead them on when your heart is straying.

You don’t like the person you are when you’re with them. Sometimes, certain relationships bring out the worst in people. It doesn’t mean that anyone is bad. It simply means they are bad together. If you aren’t happy with the person that you’ve turned into during this relationship, then move on. Grow. And find someone who fits you better.

You’re tired of fighting about the same old things. You’re sick of having the same conversations, falling into the same patterns, and watching history repeat itself. If it seems like your relationship has become stagnant, and nothing is changing despite how badly you want it to, then you shouldn’t be together anymore.

You daydreaming about breaking up a lot. If this isn’t the first time you’ve considered leaving, if you daydreaming about breaking up more often than you daydream about spending time with this person, then there’s a reason you’re feeling this way. If you want to go, don’t force yourself to stay. You are allowed to follow your heart out the door.