4 Birth Months Who Reorganize A Room Instead Of Crying

Some people have a good cry after a bad day. Others stand in the doorway and decide the bookcase has been on the wrong wall for years. For these four birth months, “I’m fine” can mean the sofa is about to move.

January: You Need One Problem You Can Solve

January, you like knowing what you can do about a problem. When something upsetting has no obvious next step, you can find yourself looking around for something that does. The crowded corner. The drawer that never closes properly. The chair everyone has to walk around.

You start with one adjustment and soon have a plan for the whole room. There’s relief in making a decision and seeing it work immediately. Nobody needs to get back to you about whether the lamp fits on that table. You can find out right now.

Whatever upset you is still on your mind, but you’ve enjoyed having something straightforward to handle. When someone asks why you moved everything, you explain how much more practical it is this way. You have several examples ready.

April: You Have Too Much Energy To Sit Still

April, if someone has hurt your feelings, sitting quietly gives you too much time to compose the speech you wish you’d delivered. You get as far as “And another thing” before standing up. The living room suddenly looks cramped. You could do something about that.

The rug gets rolled back. The side tables trade places. You empty the shelves before moving them, talking through the entire disagreement to an audience of books stacked on the floor. There’s nothing especially serene about the process. You may explain, quite forcefully, that you’re perfectly calm while searching for the furniture pads. By the time you’re putting the books back, you’ve run out of things to add to the argument. You stand back, take a breath, and realize the side tables were better where they started.

July: You Make A Place For Someone To Sit With You

July, your surroundings matter most when they feel welcoming. When you’re upset, you can become very interested in whether the living room is somewhere you actually want to spend the evening. The chair looks lonely over there. The couch needs a blanket. Why is the nicest lamp in a room nobody uses?

You move things closer together and make space for someone to sit beside you. While you’re doing it, you start thinking about who you’d like to call. You’re often more comfortable inviting someone over than announcing that you’ve had a hard day.

“Come keep me company” feels easier to send once you’ve found the cushions and cleared a spot for their cup. They can admire the room first. You’ll talk when you’re ready.

October: You Remember How You Actually Like Things

October, you notice when a room feels off, and a bad day makes it much harder to ignore. The light is too harsh. Your favorite picture is somewhere you barely see it. You’ve never particularly liked that corner, and suddenly you have a very clear idea of what would improve it.

You move a lamp, rearrange the pictures, and try the chair by the window. Each change gives you something pleasant to look at while the rest of the day is still bothering you. You know when the room starts to feel right because you finally want to sit down in it.

Of course, once you sit down, you notice something on the opposite wall. You get up to make one last adjustment. It may or may not be the last.