17 Non-Obvious, Early Signs Your Relationship Is Ending
Brooke Cagle

17 Early Signs Your Relationship Is Coming To An End

It sucks to admit that a relationship isnโ€™t going to work out, but itโ€™s better to rip the bandage off early than to stay when you know you would be happier apart. Here are a few warning signs that the relationship youโ€™re in is probably coming to an end soon:

โ€œWhen you feel like you have to make excuses about your SO to others. (Why they do what they do. Why they said what they said etc.)โ€ โ€” udonowho

โ€œContempt. Relationships donโ€™t survive contempt, and early, small expressions of disgust grow larger and more entrenched as people build on what they have become accustomed to getting away with. Eye-rolling when the partner talks; cutting them off in conversation; dismissing with sarcastic generalizations (โ€˜oh, as if youโ€™d everโ€ฆโ€™); belittling the partner when in the safety of groups. All these things are signs that the iceberg is dead ahead.โ€ โ€” kibble

โ€œWhen instead of getting excited to see their messages you get annoyed and/or feel smothered. When I was questioning whether or not I wanted to break up with my ex this is what really told me it was time to go.โ€ โ€” smallrussianshark

When you realize that you canโ€™t problem-solve for shit when the two of you are together, even simple tasks that require nothing more than open communication. Relationships require work, but they also need to be functional. If basic incompatibility keeps the two of you from working together as a partnership, itโ€™s fucking doomed.โ€ โ€” Grundlebang

โ€œYou feel strongly about something but you donโ€™t want to talk about it because you know itโ€™ll just become an argument that wonโ€™t be resolved satisfactorily.โ€ โ€” old_gold_mountain

โ€œIf something happens that you want to discuss with someone (get advice, share good news, sympathy for something, etc) and your SO is not the first person you want to go to, then the relationship is on its way out. Not necessarily if it happens once or twice, but if it happens frequently then they are not the person for you.โ€ โ€” outlandish93

โ€œWhen you start feeling nostalgia for the relationship youโ€™re currently in.โ€ โ€” leliik

โ€œWhen your SO seems totally disinterested in talking to you. You try to start a conversation and they just give you one word/one sentence answers.โ€ โ€” net_traveller

โ€œWhen you donโ€™t see each other for a few days, and youโ€™re not excited to get back together.โ€ โ€” bschoolprof_mookie

โ€œWhen their quirks that you used to find endearing now make you want to scream.โ€ โ€” nightbirdjo1971

โ€œEven fights are one-sided. The other person just stops trying to resolve the issues.โ€ โ€” castor2015

โ€œJust hanging out becomes a chore more than a pleasure.โ€ โ€“ captainplasticspoon

โ€œWhen others talk about your SO to you, and you get a little exasperated, or a little wince/groan on your face when they say their name.โ€ โ€” llcucf80

โ€œWhen breakup songs start making more sense to you than love songs.โ€ โ€” [deleted]

โ€œWhen you are only a companion, someone to keep them from feeling alone while they go about their life.โ€ โ€” Hedgehogz_Mom

โ€œWhen youโ€™re spending time with them and youโ€™d rather be anywhere else. When conversations with them become dry and boring, thatโ€™s a big one too.โ€ โ€” TheBritUchiha

โ€œThe brief terrifying, numbing thought of โ€˜is this going to be the rest of my life?โ€™โ€ โ€” tastystarbits