People Born In These 4 Months Go For A Drive Instead Of Arguing
Some people can keep an argument going through dinner, the dishes, and an unrelated discussion about the thermostat. Others reach a point where they’d rather get their keys. For these four birth months, a familiar route offers a little breathing room before they’re ready to continue the conversation.
April
April, you usually know what you want to say, and in an argument the words can arrive faster than you’ve had time to consider them. You care about making your point. You also recognize the moment when another round of back-and-forth is only going to make you more frustrated.
That’s when a short drive starts sounding appealing. You say you’ll be back and give yourself a change of scene. Outside, ordinary life is carrying on: people heading home, lights coming on, someone walking a dog who has no interest in hurrying. The conversation gradually stops feeling quite so urgent.
By the time you return, you may still disagree. But you have a clearer idea of what you actually want the other person to understand. You can say it without adding the sentence you’d spend the rest of the evening wishing you could take back.
July
July, an argument can affect you before you’ve found the words to explain why. You remember the tone as clearly as the sentence, and sometimes you need a little privacy to sort out what hurt.
You say when you’ll be back and take a familiar route, stopping somewhere quiet when you want time to think. In the parked car, you can let yourself feel upset without having to explain it at the same time. The quiet gives you a chance to separate what was said from what it meant to you.
You want to feel understood by someone you care about. A little time alone can help you find the words for that, so the conversation has somewhere to go when you return.
September
September, you want an argument to make sense. If something has been misunderstood, your first instinct is to explain it more clearly. You remember what was said, what was agreed, and where the conversation started going wrong.
After a while, though, you can hear yourself explaining the same detail again. A short drive gives you a break from trying to settle every point. With the back-and-forth paused, you have room to work out which part of the disagreement matters most to you.
When you return, you may have less to say and a better way to say it. The details still matter, but you know what you want them to explain. It’s a relief to finally reach the point you’ve been trying to make.
December
December, you lose interest when an argument starts repeating itself. The same complaint, the same answer, the same pause before someone tries the complaint at a slightly different volume. You love these people. You would also love to see literally any other scenery. You tell them you’re taking a drive and will be back in a little while.
A change of scene gives your attention somewhere else to go. A familiar song comes on, you notice something funny, or you remember a story you’d normally tell the person you’re annoyed with. You can still be frustrated and miss enjoying their company.
By the time you get home, the disagreement is only one part of how you feel about them again. You’re more ready to talk when you can also remember how much you like being together.