10 Green Flags That You’re In A Non-Toxic Relationship

You deserve a healthy relationship where you feel respected, seen, and heard. If your person is treating you well, you’ll know from the start. Here are a few green flags that you’re in a non-toxic relationship:  

“When the relationship isn’t one sided. One person shouldn’t have the responsibility of the world on their shoulders. Things should be shared as equally as possible. This is in regards to all aspects of the relationship. One person shouldn’t always have the responsibility of taking care of the house if both people work 40 hours. One person shouldn’t always put in the effort to plan dates and outings. One person shouldn’t always initiate sex and physical affection. One person shouldn’t stress themselves out trying to take care of and do nice things for their spouse when they don’t get anything in return. If any of these things are truly one sided and isn’t a mutual agreement between partners, someone is going to feel upset, frustrated, depressed, stressed, or unloved that they are the only one giving in the relationship, and are likely to feel as though their partner doesn’t care about them. Each person has a responsibility to make their partner happy, and they should want to do it. If it feels like a burden to do something nice for your SO, then the relationship probably isn’t working on some level.” — Foxbox405

“You understand you aren’t the only thing they have going on. You give them space to have other interests and friends and you appreciate your time together without making them feel obligated to pay attention to you 24/7. You also make time for them while maintaining your own interests and other relationships. You make an effort to seek out other sources of emotional support and connection so that you are not relying on this person to meet all your emotional needs.” — Creature__Teacher

“You respect them as a person. There are things you admire about them and you find some of their ‘flaws’ endearing and it’s okay that there are things about them you don’t like because they’re a whole complicated person and you appreciate them for the whole package of who they are. You don’t secretly think you’re better than them. You don’t see them as disposible or fungible or a means to an end.” – Creature__Teacher

“When you’re not afraid of their reaction to learning you’ve made a simple and easy to fix mistake. E.g., I dropped a few cups of rice on the floor. An unhealthy reaction would’ve been making me feel stupid and irresponsible for it. Instead, he jokingly shook his head at me and basically said I should go get the vacuum and he’d continue making dinner.” — TheVeggieLife

“You talk to each other when either of you feels relationship problems arising, even if you don’t fully understand them yet, and you work together as a team to keep each other feeling safe and respected and listened to. You work to be patient and supportive and to not take it personally when other things are bothering them.” – Creature__Teacher

“Conflict is normal. Hostility is not. When you can comfortably disagree on things, it’s likely you’re in a healthy relationship.” — elenabuena13

“You don’t define each other. You are still you, with your own hobbies and goals, as are they. Nothing feels ‘forced’. You WANT to spend time together. You miss them when they are not around. I am talking long after the initial passionate phase has passed.” — KMApok

“When you aren’t walking on eggshells around the other person. You aren’t worried about their reaction, because their reaction to situations is rational.” — jillygetyourgum

“When your relationships with other people isn’t damaged by it.” — attilathehyundaixx

“When you are comfortable just lying around together doing nothing.” — Barack-YoMama