Sorry, But These 12 Things Don’t Mean She’s Flirting With You
“If I twirl my hair it’s not because I’m flirting, it’s because I’m nervous about something or I’m bored and my hair is soft.” — donatos_box
“LAUGHING. Just laughing. It’s very easy to make me laugh, so this becomes an issue for me quite often. I’m very blunt and open about whether or not I have feelings for someone, but clearly I’m lying if I laugh at their jokes. If I like everyone that makes me laugh, I must be into all of my friends, my family, my pets, other cute animals, and funny posts on the internet, too. It’s a weird kink. There’s another part to this, too, because a lot of women have a tendency to ‘nervous laugh’ in an awkward situation with a guy. Unable to pick up on her body language, or even her words given the laughter, many guys think this is a green light. Laughter =/= flirting. Take the compliment that she likes your joke and leave it at that. (And yes, I know that some laughter IS flirting, but it’s better to go in without that assumption. You have no idea how many times I’ve had guys that I flat out told I wasn’t interested in later accuse me of leading them on because I kept ‘flirting’ with them.)“ — queen_of_the_moths
“Looking pretty (dressing nice, doing my makeup etc) and being nice. I dress up for myself, not you. I am nice because that’s what decent human beings do.” — middlescore-
“Eye contact. Sometimes I am just focused on the conversation.” — CStarling4
“Being friendly while I’m at work and having a conversation. I’m literally paid to make my store inviting and entice you to choose my business over another, and I don’t mind having a chat. But that doesn’t mean I’m into you, at all. I do genuinely care about what I’m talking to you about because I am generally open to meeting new people, but my interest isn’t solely directed at you. Almost all my customers, male, female, young, old, get the same treatment.” — 2k_0h_VI
“Smiling and being friendly. So many guys (and women, too, now that I think about it) ask you out for this, thinking it’s a signal. It’s kind of them, and most of them are ok if you thank them really nicely and say no thanks, but I’ve had a number of guys be like, ‘Well why were you so nice to me then?!’ Like, would you like me to be rude? I don’t understand.” — ThriftShopKnickers
“Former Marylander here. Growing up there, I always heard teens and women call everyone ‘hon.’ It was not romantic in any way. It sometimes could be said as, ‘Thanks for bagging my groceries, hon!’ or maybe a, ‘That’s nice, hon.’ It wouldn’t be every guy at school because some of them knew better, but you did have the occasional dude who didn’t know that the girls meant it as a warm greeting or just as a thank you. This would definitely cause a few awkward situations between the two of them until everything was sorted out. I don’t hear that word very often now that I’m in California, but I did feel sorry for the guys who couldn’t figure it out.” — [deleted]
“I always notice a fresh haircut on a guy and I will usually comment on it, ‘nice haircut.’ Men are commonly surprised that I noticed and seem to be flattered. I don’t do it to flirt; I just think guys deserve to feel noticed sometimes, too.” — CertifiedBonefied
“Humor. I’m a goofy ass person. An employee of mine and I would always lightheartedly roast each other and make funny (professional) jokes. Next thing you know started a rumor around the store that I hit on him… I’ve been with my spouse for ten years.” — number5withcheese
“Opening the door for them. I have a guy at my school who I used to open the door for all the time because he always said that his wrists were hurt. Then he tried to kiss me and I freaked out. He said I was ‘coming onto him’. Interesting.” — toomanycults
“Compliments. Recently I was introduced to someone at a party and said, ‘Hey! I like your shirt! That print is really cool.’ (It had roller skating dinosaurs on it). He thanked me and then proceeded to get introduced to other people. Went to get myself a drink and he walked up to me and said someone just told him I was married. I told him I was and he goes, ‘Then maybe lead with that,’ and accused me of leading him on. Devastated to see such a cool shirt go to waste on such a douche.” — [deleted]
“Existing. Existing gets misinterpreted as flirting. Standing in line at Taco Bell. Standing next to someone at a bar to order a drink. Entering into a room and accidentally making eye contact while looking around. Saying ‘bless you’ when someone sneezes, picking up a dropped item, or holding a door.” — gore_schach