Bare Minimum Men Will Accuse You Of Being Clingy
People who give the bare minimum aren’t interested in going above and beyond to make you happy. They’re hoping you’ll stick around, even though they’re giving you crumbs. This type of person is going to make you start second-guessing every little thing about yourself.
Bare minimum partners will accuse you of being clingy when you’re doing the most basic things, like asking them whether they’re free to hang out over the weekend or texting them a second time when they don’t answer your first text for hours and hours. This is because they don’t want you to catch onto the fact that they’re not giving you enough. They’ll accuse you of being too much so you think the blame is on you instead of them. So you don’t realize that they’re giving too little and that is the real issue.
Bare minimum partners will accuse you of being clingy because they don’t want a real commitment. They want the illusion of commitment. Maybe this means they won’t put a label on your relationship. Or maybe it means they’ll call you their partner without doing any things that a partner is supposed to do, like setting aside time for you and communicating their feelings and making you feel appreciated. They want to do the smallest amount of work without you raising a single complaint — so once you voice your concerns, you’ll be called clingy. You’ll be tricked into believing that your expectations are too high, that your standards are unrealistic, that you’re being unfair. But this is far from the truth.
The next time someone accuses you of being clingy, take a step back and look at the situation logically. Are you really invading their privacy and overstepping boundaries? Or are you simply expressing your love and encouraging them to give the same amount of effort back? Are you refusing to give them space to have their own lives outside of the relationship? Or are they refusing to meet you halfway?
In a healthy relationship, it’s not really a big deal if you text your partner more than once. You’re allowed to check in on them. You’re allowed to ask them how they’re feeling and if they’re free to see you. You’re allowed to say those three little words as much as you want. There’s nothing wrong with paying attention to your partner. But if your partner doesn’t want attention from you, that’s a problem. That means the relationship isn’t working.
Who knows, maybe your partner isn’t actually giving the bare minimum and simply expects a different level of engagement than you do — but even if that’s the case, it still means that you’re incompatible. You deserve someone who appreciates how hard you love. Someone who is happy to hear from you as much as possible. Someone who wants to spend a ton of quality time together and would never turn down the opportunity to see you more. You deserve someone who doesn’t consider you clingy. They consider you affectionate. They consider you attentive. They consider you everything they’ve ever wanted.