6 Signs You’re Going To Burn Out, Romantically

Burnout isn’t only about work. You can exhaust yourself when you’re in the wrong relationship too. When you’re dating someone who takes and takes from you without giving you anything in return, you’re bound to feel your energy draining. Here are a few signs you’re going to burn out romantically soon:

Dealing with this person is emotionally draining.

Your partner should make you feel lighter and less stressed. They shouldn’t be making you nervous and uncomfortable. You shouldn’t feel like you’re walking on eggshells around them and can never let down your guard. If this person is emotionally draining you, you should spend less time with them. Or no time with them. There’s no reason to subject yourself to extra stress and drama.

You’re constantly putting on a performance to impress them.

You should feel one hundred percent comfortable being yourself around your person. You shouldn’t have to hide your real feelings or your honest opinions. They should appreciate the real you. If you’re always wearing a mask around this person, hiding bits and pieces of your true self, it’s going to exhaust you over time. You’re never going to feel entirely comfortable around them.

You’re always doing the bulk of the work.

You always send the first texts and carry the conversations to prevent them from puttering out early. You always come up with date ideas and make room in your schedule to fit them in when they can’t be bothered to move around any plans for you. In every single aspect of the relationship, you’re the one doing most of the work. You’re the one keeping the relationship alive. If you stopped trying, there wouldn’t be any relationship because you’re keeping it afloat.

You are constantly making sacrifices they would never agree to make.

You come up with fair compromises whenever there’s a disagreement, or simply sacrifice what you wanted to give them what they wanted. You’re always the one who is giving in and letting them choose the movie, choose the restaurant, choose the music. Sometimes, you automatically give them what they want without even putting up a fight because it’s too exhausting to ask for even the bare minimum.

You are always running around, trying to please them.

They rarely lift a finger for you, but you’ll jump up and help out the second they even hint about needing you. While your helpfulness would be fine in a healthy relationship, it’s not fair for you to exhaust yourself running favors for them if they aren’t willing to do the same for you. You can’t do the work of two people. You can’t take on your own responsibilities, plus theirs, when they aren’t helping you out in any way.

Nothing you do ever feels good enough.

It doesn’t matter how much effort you put into the relationship. They always want more. They always have complaints about something you’ve done wrong or something extra you could have done. They are never happy, even though you’re tearing yourself apart to please them. And this is not the way it should be. Remember, you deserve a relationship where you’re appreciated. Where your effort is reciprocated. Where you never feel like your love is going to waste.