19 Dealbreakers That Are More Common Than You Think

“Someone who puts me down constantly. Seems obvious, but at first it’s done like a joke or a friendly roast. Over time, it gets to you, reshapes who you are.” — even-in-these-chains

“Inconsistent communication. It is 2023, we all have our smartphones glued to us, there is literally no excuse.” — courtFTW

“Unable to communicate emotions or worse, not understanding WHY they are feeling the way they do and blaming their loved ones. Which results in lack of empathy for those who can communicate needs, or lack of empathy in general. Total breakdown of a relationship.” — New_Laugh_4080

“Starting fights with other men whilst drunk. It’s not cute or manly. They’ll soon turn on you at home. Or punching holes in walls. Absolutely not.” — PathCareful2600

“Jealousy and trust issues. Calling me a cheater and a liar is insulting my integrity and character and I just won’t be with someone that doesn’t respect me.” — RobotWizard83

“Beyond the obvious ones, addiction to social media. If we can’t even eat without them taking 50 pics/videos then I’m walking out.” — BoredKing98

“Not wanting me to go out with my friends and in any case discouraging me from developing my own social life. (I get jealousy, I can understand and I am more than willing to check up once in a while if I’m out and for my partner to meet and spend time with my friends, but if my partner doesn’t trust me out with other people then it’s a big no.)” — New_to_Siberia

“Shouting. There are very few reasons to raise your voice at the person you love. Car crashes and imminent death being the only ones I can think of.” — wesleyD777

“Unable to handle basic adult responsibilities, like cleaning up after themselves or paying bills.” — DeathSpiral321

“When they don’t put in the same effort as you. If I’m trying to show you that I value you, and making you feel valued, communicating consistently, I expect the same in return. Don’t have to give me the world, I just want reciprocated interest. Otherwise you very quickly become unattractive.” — SouthsideRapGod

“I have zero tolerance to dishonesty and deceit. If my partner can’t be upfront and faithful with me, it’s an instant deal breaker.” — Ecstatic_Ad_4476

“Being treated disrespectfully: your partner should always treat you as you would yourself or better. Or when behavior is inconsistent (hot/cold, kind/angry, loving/uninterested).” — Yashugan00

“Demanding we go be social every single day with no downtime for ourselves.” — jackfaire

“Mentions her ex constantly. Compares me to him, favorably or unfavorably. Tries to guilt me into doing things by saying ‘[her ex] used to do that.’ I’ve been burned too many times by women who do this.” — Johhnymaddog316

“Being kept a secret, not meeting friends and family, not being introduced to anyone.” — ch3zza80

“Constantly playing ‘Devil’s Advocate’ for the sake of getting a reaction or wearing you down instead of having meaningful discourse on subjects that matter to both of you. One is communication and sharing ideas, the other is attention-seeking behavior.” — giga_booty

“Name calling. Arguing is fine and healthy when done properly. Once things resort to calling the other names, it seems like there is no turning back.” — truckschooldance

“No attempts to show interest in your interests, or even worse: having downright disdain toward everything you’re interested in.” — Taterific

“Not enough physical affection, and turning away mine. Like, please, sometimes I just need my hand held! Just chill on the couch and lean on me or something!“ — SuperBaconjam