6 Concrete Signs You’re Not In Love (You’re Just Scared To Be Single Again)

You don’t want to remain in the wrong relationship, just because you feel like it’s easier to continue dealing with this person than entering the dating world again. You don’t want to trap yourself somewhere you don’t belong because it is never going to make you happy. Here are some concrete signs you’re not in love. You’re just scared to be single again.

You’re always happier and more relaxed when you’re spending time away from them.

Although there’s nothing wrong with needing some space and enjoying your alone time, your partner should be the person you enjoy spending time with the most. You should feel lighter and happier when they’re by your side. If you only ever feel annoyed by their presence, and are always counting down the seconds until they leave you alone, then you should reconsider your commitment to them. It’s better to be single than with someone you can barely stand.

You don’t want to throw away so much history with someone when you’re this close to a happily ever after.

Except it won’t be a happily ever after when you’re with the wrong person. Marrying them won’t make you happy. Buying a house with them won’t make you happy. These milestones need to happen with the right person in order to make you feel the way you hope to feel.

You enjoy parading them around town, but don’t really enjoy your one-on-one time.

You shouldn’t date someone, just so you have someone to act as your plus-one and introduce to your family at parties. After all, most of your relationship isn’t going to be public. It’s going to be just the two of you, alone, in private. So if you don’t actually enjoy their company when you’re the only ones in the room, you don’t make much sense as an item.

You work harder to make your relationship look perfect on social media than in real life.

Instead of putting in the effort to keep your relationship healthy, you put it into creating the illusion of a healthy relationship. You care more about what others think of the two of you than how your partner actually feels because they aren’t your top priority. You aren’t as wildly in love with them as you lead the world to believe.

You’re feeling pressured by the amount of friends who keep getting engaged and having babies.

You don’t want to fall behind everyone else in your age group, so you don’t want to break up with your partner. While you’re not alone in this feeling, you need to remember that there is no set timeline on love and relationships. Some people find their partner in high school. Others find their partner much later in life. You aren’t behind. You’re simply on a different path.

You would rather deal with the devil you know than the devil you don’t.

You might feel like you’re safer staying in the wrong relationship because at least you know what you’re getting than breaking up with them and entering the unknown. But the unknown doesn’t have to be a negative. Yes, the single life could make you miserable for a while. But it could also make you happier than you’ve ever been. Don’t assume a subpar relationship is the best you’re ever going to get. Better things are out there. You just have to be brave enough to go search for it.