Be Happy Your Almost Relationship Ended

Be happy your almost relationship ended because they weren’t giving you everything you deserved. They almost gave you what you deserved. They almost gave you their whole heart. They almost showed up when you needed them. But they didn’t.

They didn’t commit to you. They didn’t decide to stay with you. They didn’t give you what they made it seem like they were about to give to you. Even though it might be hard to let go of someone who almost gave you everything you wanted, remember that they didn’t do it. They didn’t rise to your expectations. They didn’t meet your standards. They didn’t follow through. And you don’t want to be with someone like that, someone who pulls away when you thought they were inching closer. Someone who leaves you lost and confused about their intentions. Someone who gets your hopes up high before sending them crashing down.

As much as you might miss this person, as much as you might care about this person, you need to stop thinking of them as your perfect partner because they weren’t. They almost were. And almost isn’t enough. 

Be happy that your almost relationship ended because now you can set out to find someone who is going to follow through on their promises. Someone who is going to stay present, even when times are hard. Someone who is going to say what they mean and mean what they say. Someone who is going to make you happy all the time, not whenever they pick and choose to pay attention to you.

Be happy that your almost relationship ended because it’s exhausting trying to decipher mixed signals and figure out what the wrong person wants from you. It’s tiring to feel like you’re always this close to a relationship starting, but it never ends up happening. The right person is going to be clear about their intentions. You are going to be on the same page early on. You are actually going to talk about your feelings, not skirt around them and make each other guess.

Be happy that your almost relationship ended because you shouldn’t be the one who cares more, the one who is always asking about a relationship and begging for more. Your person should be interested in creating a future with you too. They should be excited at the thought of growing together too. You don’t have to be the one pushing for more. In fact, you shouldn’t be pushing at all. The relationship should naturally progress because it’s what both of you want. Because you both feel like a good fit together. Remember, you should never have to convince someone to love you. You should never have to give them reasons why you’d make a beautiful partner. They should be able to see it for themselves.

Be happy that your almost relationship ended because you deserve so much more. You deserve a full heart, not half of one. You deserve a real relationship, not the illusion of one.