Concrete Signs Your Confidence Is Getting In The Way Of Finding Your Soulmate

You are not unlovable. It’s not your fault if you haven’t found the person meant for you yet. However, there are some small things you can do to increase your chances of finding love, like working on your self-image. While you don’t need to love yourself to make others love you, higher confidence can certainly help. Here are some signs that your low confidence is getting in the way of finding your soulmate:

You are too scared to put yourself out there and risk rejection.

You aren’t going to magically end up in a relationship if you refuse to leave the house and meet new people, if you refuse to text that person you’ve been crushing on, if you refuse to take even the smallest chance on love. Although your low confidence might make you feel like no one wants to be with you, that isn’t the truth. But if you keep telling yourself this is the case, you’ll eventually start to believe it. You’ll start to isolate yourself, which means you won’t even give yourself the opportunity to find love. If you aren’t putting yourself out there, you aren’t putting yourself in a position to find your soulmate.

You walk away from people you care about before they can hurt you.

You are constantly coming up with reasons to walk away from people you care about because you’ve convinced yourself that the relationship isn’t going to work out anyway. You’ve convinced yourself it’s better to leave now, so you can be the one who severs the connection, instead of waiting around for the other person to do the dirty work. If you assume every relationship is bound to fail, then it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You’ll end up making excuses about why there’s no use in trying, when really, the effort would be worth it.

You assume every relationship is bound to fail and every partner is bound to hurt you.

Trust is essential in any healthy relationship. Although you might not be trying to hurt your partner, you could end up pushing them away if you make it clear you don’t trust them. If you make it clear you expect them to abandon you out of the blue, cheat on you, and completely shatter your heart someday. If your confidence is too low, your trust will be low too, and that could snowball into a whole range of problems with your partner.

You always wait for the other person to make the first move.

Your low confidence might make it hard to make the first move, whether that means introducing yourself, asking for a phone number, or planning out a date. You would rather wait for the other person to admit their feelings for you first, so they are the one put into a vulnerable position instead. But if you refuse to show your feelings, even a little, the other person might assume you aren’t interested. They might assume they don’t have a chance with you, and then neither of you will ever realize how the other person felt.