How People Try To Take Advantage Of You, Based On Your Birth Month
People often talk about “being taken advantage of” as something obvious, but in reality it usually starts in subtle ways like habits, expectations, and personality strengths that others learn to lean on over time. In psychology, traits like kindness, responsibility, social ease, and emotional patience can sometimes turn into blind spots in relationships if they are not balanced with boundaries. Your birth month is not a fixed explanation of your experiences, but it can be a playful way to reflect on how your strengths might be perceived or used by others.
Read on to see what your birth month might reveal about the ways people could try to take advantage of you and what that might say about your natural tendencies.
April
People take advantage of your street smarts.
They assume you will plan 100% of the activities you do together. From organizing travel plans to choosing the restaurant for every single date night, the responsibility of planning social events almost always falls on your shoulders. It’s meant to be a compliment — everyone knows you know the best places to go and you don’t fall into a rut like everyone else. But it gets exhausting. It would be nice if the other people in your life would take the reigns once in a blue moon and surprise you with an adventure you get to fully enjoy, without being bogged down in the details.
May
People take advantage of your loyalty.
They assume you’ll always be there for them. This is what people born in those born in May are known for, but it’s not infinite and unconditional. You can’t bank on someone to always be there for you if you stop putting time and effort into the relationship as well. It’s a two way street — either be there for your May-born too or stop expecting them to drop everything for you.
June
People take advantage of your positivity.
You’re not one to be negative or outright bitchy to anyone. You like most people and try to get everyone in the group to have fun when you’re out. Unfortunately people latch on to this and try to suck out all the energy you have — that or they assume you’re too nice to stop them from taking advantage of you. Neither of these assumptions are true, for the record. Push someone born in June too far and you’ll see that they’re not always as nice as they seem.
July
People take advantage of your generosity.
July natives have the biggest heart of the year. They’ll give the shirt off their back to their loved ones. July-born individuals experience genuine joy when they are generous with their loved ones, the problem occurs when this stops being appreciated. When the gratitude stops and people feel entitled to someone born in July’s self-sacrificial ways, there’s a rocky future ahead.
August
People take advantage of your social skills.
Those born in August know how to walk into a room and be friends with whoever they want to by the end of the night. They aren’t loud or overly aggressive, but their subtle confidence always wins people over. This is attractive to the people in your life, but other people can rely on you too much when it comes to brokering peace treaties, carrying the conversation, or introducing them to the contacts you’ve worked hard to get. Everyone born in August has experienced bringing a friend to a party only to have them hang on them all night, totally unable to flourish on their own. It gets old.
September
People take advantage of the way you can help them problem-solve.
People born in September are fixers, they can make anyone’s life better. They love the project of meeting someone and doing the research and planning necessary to overhaul that person’s life. However, if that person doesn’t take matters into their own hands from that point on, it’s going to be a problem. Shose with September birthdays can fall into a routine of having to be someone’s mom, always cleaning up after them and holding their hand, and that’s not fun for anyone involved.
October
People take advantage of the way you value your relationships more than most people.
Someone born in October is the best kind of friend to have. They are there for you, without question. They will be the best friend you’ve ever had. But you still have to be proactive about maintaining the health of your relationship. Don’t take them for granted! Continue to acknowledge and appreciate everything your those born in October doe for you.
November
People take advantage the way you will fight for your friends.
Those born in November seem like the very last sign of the year someone would try to take advantage of. They are tough and outspoken, and very aware of what they bring to the table. From time to time, however, those born in November develop soft spots for people they love. Here, they are vulnerable to be taken advantage of by people who will use this tiny weakness to get someone born in November to fight their fight for them. They exploit the mama bear instincts of the November in order to further themselves against some other person.
December
People take advantage of your laid back nature.
Those born in December rarely get angry. They value people getting along and prefer to go with the flow rather than stir up unnecessary drama. Sometimes crafty people use this to their advantage and try to push those born in December too far, knowing it will take a lot for them to speak up.
January
People take advantage of the things you’ve worked hard to have.
They see what you have and think you got it because you were lucky. They want you to hand over your connections and whatever else they view as a “magic pill” that got you where you are. They don’t understand the time and dedication you’ve put into achieving your goals. Sure, you make it look easy, but that doesn’t mean it actually was easy.
February
People take advantage of your intelligence.
You were the person people always asked to do their homework growing up. You’ve long since known that “can you help me with…” really means “can you do this for me.” It seems like no one else wants to do the work, they think that just because you like intellectual topics you want to be everyone’s personal homework machine or tl;dr explainer.
March
People take advantage of the way you hate standing up for yourself.
They know it’s going to take a lot before you’ll lash out and assert yourself so they push. Little by little they take more and more of what you have to give. They think they can walk all over you — and they can, for as long as you procrastinate the kind of conflict you hate so much.