If They Won’t Commit, Cut Them Out
If you’re interested in a serious commitment, but the person you’re seeing feels differently, the best thing you can do is walk away. No matter how much you like them, no matter how badly you want them to change their mind, you don’t want to sacrifice your own needs in order to keep them in your world. They clearly aren’t right for you if they’re unable to give you the basics, so don’t convince yourself that it’s better to have half their heart than nothing at all. In reality, it’s better to have a heart that is capable of loving you fully than to settle for one that is incapable of giving you what you need.
If they aren’t interested in making a commitment, then you should step away. Don’t pretend that you’re okay with a situation that is secretly causing you heartbreak. Don’t act like you are on the same page as them when you’re interested in so much more because it will only cause resentment down the line. You deserve a partner who rises to your standards, not someone who only gives you breadcrumbs and expects you to feel satisfied.
If they won’t commit, cut them out of your life because you shouldn’t sit around forever waiting for them to change. There’s a chance that they are going to remain firm in their decision, that they are never going to change their tune. You can’t hold onto someone because you have a beautiful vision of what a future together could look like. It’s better to pay attention to today. How are they treating you now? Is this enough? If it’s not, then you should walk away because there is no guarantee that they are going to change their mind. Especially if they are warning you about their feelings right now.
If they won’t commit, cut them out of your life so you’re able to find someone who wants to give you the things this person cannot. Someone who is excited to start their future with you because their feelings are as strong as your feelings, their intentions are the same as your intentions. Remember, love is not enough. You need aligning hopes and dreams, too. You need compatible expectations.
If they won’t commit, choose yourself. Choose to do what is best for your own future, your own mental health, your own happiness and walk away. It might feel counterintuitive because it will make you upset at first, but down the line, this will be the best thing for you. You can’t settle for someone who won’t meet your standards. You need to consider yourself a priority because this person is never going to do the same, but you can. Remember, requited love isn’t everything. Self-love matters, too.
If they won’t commit, cut them out of your life because you deserve a real label. You deserve a real relationship. You deserve a real commitment. You are lovable. You are a catch. And you are going to find someone who fits you better — and you need to start believing it.