If You Want To Master Self-Love, Start With These 5 Crucial Lessons

1. Learn to embrace your imperfections.

You can’t have it perfect. Nobody can. And that’s okay. It’s okay to have a bad hair day or a breakout on your forehead. It’s totally okay to feel ugly on some days. It’s okay to feel bloated and not have your pants fit you on a Thursday so you have to settle for sweatpants instead. Accept that you’re a human being that is entitled to feel and experience both worlds, because when you do, you’ll feel a lot better in your own skin for most of your life. It’s about loving the raw, authentic version of you. 

2. Learn to slow down.

I get that sometimes life can be a fast-paced environment for us, especially when you’re working and are running toward your goal. It’s only human nature to set a timeline for ourselves to be what we want to be and where we want to be at a certain age. And wanting those things is totally fine. Having goals is what makes us move forward in life. But remember that there’s always a perfect timing God intends for each season of our lives. Don’t feel bad just because the people around you seem to have it all together and you feel stuck. Life is not a race. As long as you keep yourself motivated to reach your goals, your time will come, too. 

3. Learn to give yourself credit for your achievements.

Be proud of yourself. Celebrate your wins with a glass of champagne. And if you ever fail at something, know that it’s normal to not have it all figured out. It’s completely impossible to succeed without facing any obstacles. Just be there for yourself in both wins and losses. Both are essential to shape you into someone you are meant to be in life. Get all the lessons and improve day by day. Don’t be too hard on yourself when things don’t seem to align with your plans. Be extra patient with who you are becoming. It’s important that you have your own back.

4. Learn to forgive yourself when you make a mistake.

Again, life is always going to teach us lessons. That’s how we mature, grow, and become wiser as we age. We live in a world full of chaos, heartaches, and disappointments. As much as there’s mistakes, there’s also lessons. Teach yourself to take a look on the other side of negativity. There’s always a reason to be grateful, too. You can always find so many good things to be happy about and smile for. Appreciate them. It’s important to be aware of what you focus on. It’s all about perspective.

5. Learn to surround yourself only with those who help you evolve.

As you mature, you are going to lose friends and people in your life that don’t serve your purpose. And know that it is always going to be better that way. Because at the end of the day, you need to protect your mental health, your spirit, and your whole being from those who don’t help you grow, from those who make you feel bad about yourself, and from those who pull you down. What and who you need the most are those who want the best for you—your happiness, your success, and your well-being.