If You’re Doing These 7 Things, You’re Dating The Wrong Person

You’re hiding your accomplishments from them because you don’t want to make them feel bad about themselves.

Your person should be your biggest supporter. They should be happy that you’re happy. They should celebrate your wins and build you up. After all, your successes doesn’t take anything away from their successes. If they act like you’re in some sort of competition and get sulky when you accomplish something you’re proud of, then they’re doing you a disservice.

You’re tiptoeing around their feelings to avoid fights.

You should feel comfortable sitting your partner down and talking through problems. If you’re so scared of setting them off that you are censoring every word you say, then you’re in the wrong relationship. You deserve someone who wants to hear your complaints so that they can come to compromises and make the relationship stronger. You deserve someone who allows you to be your unfiltered self.

You’re questioning your worth – directly because of them.

Your person shouldn’t make you feel bad about your personality or appearance. They shouldn’t tear you down or compare you to their exes or celebrity crushes. They should make you feel beautiful and valuable, not discarded and ignored. If they’re causing you to question your worth because of their constant comments, then you’re settling for less than you deserve.

You’re texting other people behind their back.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re flirting with these other people, or whether you’re hiding the fact that you’re talking to them because your partner doesn’t want you talking to them. Either way, you’re sneaking around behind their back. You’re lying. You’re keeping secrets. You’re not being completely honest with each other, and that’s not the way that healthy relationships work.

You’re avoiding hanging out with them.

Your person should be your best friend. They should be someone you like, not just love. If you aren’t interested in hanging out with them, if you’re dreading the time you spend together, then why are you in a relationship with them? You should be excited to see them. You should appreciate every moment you get together. Otherwise, there’s no point in dating them.

You’re snooping through their phone and emails.

Having unresolved trust issues is one thing, but if you are itching to check their phone when you’ve never done anything like this before, they must be giving you a reason not to trust them. And if you don’t trust them, you don’t belong with them. You need a relationship where you feel comfortable and secure, where you know your person would never hurt you.

You’re changing yourself to make them accept you.

You shouldn’t pretend to be someone you’re not. If your person expects you to dress or act a certain way, then they don’t like the real you – and you deserve someone who would never ask you to change. You shouldn’t allow someone else to control you. You shouldn’t let them make your decisions for you. You need a relationship where you can be authentic. Be yourself.