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Not Everyone You Meet Is Supposed To Stay Forever, And I Hope You See Beauty In That

Not everyone you meet is supposed to stay forever, and I hope you see the beauty, not only the pain, in that. I hope you remember the good times together. I hope you see that no matter the entrances and exits, you are the most constant person in your life.

Sometimes losing people is meant to forever change you. Sometimes you force healing when you’re meant to fall apart. To be renewed.

Create a future where you’re the main character in your story, no matter what happens. Life didn’t turn out exactly as planned. You didn’t realize there’d be so much unlearning to do, so much finding of self. Who are you? You’re still figuring it out. The people you meet push you, guide you, and help uncover deep layers.

The people we meet teach us about ourselves and the world around us. Some teach us that love knows no bounds, that we can face anything. The world stops when we’re by their side. Some show us that we’re changing. They represent a marker in our lives of the person we used to be. Sometimes we drift apart as we grow. We think we’re losing when we’re making room for our next chapter. Some teach us that we’re ready for change. Others teach us that we’re not.

You might recognize yourself in each other, the parts that are hiding. Your longing attracted their desire. Your light drew their darkness. Your need for freedom attracted their need to hunt and capture. Your need for control attracted their need to control. They were your most extraordinary mirror. Some people force you to look at yourself, admit what you want, and realize what you don’t.

Loss isn’t always losing. We meet people to form connections because we are human. Relationship is what we’re made for. Beauty comes in realizing that we belong to each other, but we also belong to ourselves. We can’t force anyone to stay, and why would we? Love allows freedom. Love allows choice. Love doesn’t coerce. Love is holding space in your heart for someone who commits to nestle there but isn’t chained. Thank everyone that came and the lessons they brought.

Some people remind you that there is life to be lived. They’ve faced the greatest challenges, yet still, they press on. They inspire you to do the same.

Sometimes losing people is meant to forever change you. Sometimes people come into your life to make a direct impact on your soul. You remember their legacy. You remember the ups and downs. You remember that through it all, though they may go, you have connections all around. Your life is worth fully living. Not everyone you meet is supposed to stay forever, and I hope you see beauty, not only pain in that.