Read This If Your Goals Never Feel Good Enough

Have you ever had a conversation with someone and they casually asked, “What are your goals?” What a buzzkill. I find this question to be aggressive, invasive, and unnecessary. While it serves as a conversation starter, it does the opposite. It pushes you into a corner to regurgitate a shallow response the person will respect. Even if it isn’t respect you wish to find, it can feel like an interrogation light shined on you. It feels like a tactic to leverage how you should treat this person. But newsflash, your life is for you to understand, not others.

Human nature will make us naturally curious about someone else’s journey while figuring out our own. If we meet someone with a healthy, polished response, it will make us insecure about our own. If someone has an answer we can’t quite understand or feel wasn’t reaching our requirements, the conversation now becomes an interrogation. I admire people interested in another’s journey but can’t agree with how casually it’s brought up in conversation.

Your life journey or goals are deeply intimate to yourself. Due to that pandemic, there has been a common question of “What is my purpose?” People question their life’s journey instead of analyzing and admiring where they have come from. Though people call it the zombie effect, some people have been on autopilot throughout their life. While some have grown hysterical and dedicated to uprooting their lives, I don’t find average living horrible.

We have mistaken neutrality in our journey with being too routine or not having that spark. We must understand that the humph factor isn’t for everyone; we all can’t be Rihanna. (Hi, Rihanna.)

Life is an experience, and while having a goal is admirable, it isn’t necessary. There’s a fine line between being accountable and being rigid. If you set the bar too high, you may block yourself from evolving by fixing results. If you set the bar too average, you may risk not being all you can be.

By default, these goals somehow play into our life’s esteem. I’m here to say, don’t forget to stop and smell the roses. The experiences you’ve encountered thus far have made you who you are. If you take a detour, never forget who you are.