Remember, you don’t have to shoulder everyone else’s burdens.
You pride yourself on being the strong, unshakeable one. The one who is calm and controlled in emergencies. The one who everyone turns to when there is a problem. But it’s not your responsibility to save everyone. You don’t have to take care of them if it means neglecting yourself in the process. Even though you might feel like you’re superhuman, putting too much on your plate at once is going to end in disaster. You need to be mindful about how much you’re doing for other people. You can’t forget to pour some of that energy into yourself.
Remember, you’re allowed to say goodbye to people who have hurt you.
You don’t care about many people, but the people who actually matter to you hold a huge place in your heart. You feel like you owe them your loyalty and love. You would do anything for them – even if that means withstanding their cruelest behaviors. But you can’t allow others to walk over you. You can’t keep toxic people around, simply because you have history. Even though you want to stay loyal and keep them in your world forever, some people are only temporary. You need to say goodbye to them in order to make room for a brighter future.
Remember, you don’t want to push away the people who treat you right.
On the other hand, you don’t want to assume everyone is out to hurt you. You don’t want to avoid meeting new people and keep yourself isolated because you’ve been hurt in the past. You need to keep your heart open to possibility. You need to give new people a chance if you get along well. Although there’s nothing wrong with staying home and reading most weekends, you don’t want to stop having a social life. You need other people, even though you swear you’re better off on your own.
Remember, you’re not supposed to be working twenty-four hours a day.
You’re a hard worker. You are willing to put in long hours, sweat, and tears in order to reach your goals. But you can’t worry about work every second of every day. You need to turn your brain off sometimes. You need to mute your notifications, turn off your work phone, and refuse to do business during certain hours. Otherwise, work is going to take over your whole life. You’re never going to have a moment of rest. You need to set some boundaries for the sake of your mental health.
Remember, you’re allowed to ask for help.
Since you’re so self-sufficient, you have a hard time asking for help. You feel like you have to accomplish everything on your own – but that isn’t the case. You’re allowed to ask your family and friends for assistance. You won’t be bothering them. They’ll be happy that you trusted them enough to open up to them. Besides, you’ve done so much for them in the past. They should be happy to return the favor. Remember, relationships are about giving and taking.