The 2 Love Lessons You’ll Learn From Your Twin Flame

There is one relationship you will experience in this lifetime — one that will challenge, teach, and move you in ways you never would have imagined. And that is the twin flame relationship.

Your twin flame isn’t a soulmate, but rather, an intense soul connection. They say twin flames are two souls split into two bodies, which is why you might see yourself in and feel drawn to one another. Twin flames are meant to hold up a mirror to who we really are and what parts of us need to change, and help face and heal our doubts and insecurities. They will teach us, challenge us, and be a catalyst for personal growth.

Here are some love lessons your twin flame will teach you:

How to not lose yourself in someone else.

Oftentimes, people get lost in a relationship. Their partner is the center of their world and they don’t know who they are without their partner. They’re obsessed and feel a sense of possession over their partner.

The purpose of a twin flame relationship is to challenge you. You’re in an obsessive, codependent relationship to acknowledge and heal your codependency. You’re in an anxiously attached relationship to shed light on and heal your anxious attachment. You don’t know who you are without your partner, so when you (inevitably) break up, you’re forced to look at yourself and figure out who you are.

When you’re out of the twin flame relationship, you will learn how independent, secure, and strong you really are. They just had to help guide you there.

How to love someone without sacrificing your own needs.

As mentioned before, your twin flame is supposed to challenge you and be a catalyst for growth. When you’re in this twin flame relationship, you are still putting their needs before your own. You are still deep in your people-pleasing tendencies.

When this relationship inevitably ends, you will open your eyes to this behavior and tell yourself, I’m not doing that ever again. I’m setting boundaries. I’m putting myself first for once. You know that your kindness and generosity are your superpowers, but you no longer use them as a means of keeping someone around. You are still fiercely loving and caring, but you no longer sacrifice yourself. You no longer abandon yourself and your needs when you’re in a relationship.

You shouldn’t be loved by what you can do for others. You should be loved for who you are, period.