The Best Revenge Is Healing

After someone breaks your heart, sometimes you want to get even. You want to show your ex the mistake they made by letting you go and everything they’re missing because they didn’t stick around.

And so, you start doing everything in your power to “glow up.” You workout. Constantly. You go out with your friends and post the highlights on your Instagram Story. Constantly. You take on project after project at work in an attempt to get a promotion and look more impressive. Constantly.

At first, it feels good. You feel free. You feel like you’re making progress. You feel okay. But, eventually, you start to feel burned out. You’re exhausted from working late every night and the late nights out with your friends and exercising until your muscles ache. But mostly, you’re fucking tired of living your life based on what your ex may or may not think about it.

Here’s the thing you need to know: the best revenge isn’t getting even. It isn’t getting your ex to want you back or regret losing you. The best revenge isn’t becoming a better version of yourself out of spite.

The best revenge is healing. It is making room for new experiences, new hope, and new love. It is picking up the pieces of your broken heart. It is stitching up your own wounds. It is appreciating the people who stayed. It is taking care of yourself for yourself, and no one else. It is taking your power back. It is getting better for you.

And I know it hurts like hell right now. I know you want nothing more than to show them the pain they caused by inflicting it back. But the truth is life will always break you at some point or another. People will shatter your heart. Time will erode your bones and pick fights with your psyche and there will be days when it will all feel as though it is too much. But you can make it all easier to carry by letting the bitterness go and beginning to start the journey to acceptance and self-love. Because this is how you will heal.

If you want to “get back” at the things that wounded you, heal. Because, in time, you’ll realize you didn’t need to get even in the first place. You just needed to get better. You just needed to heal your heart. And a healed heart doesn’t want revenge anyway. It just wants peace.