If you’re going no contact with your situationship because you think it will make them realize your worth, then this article is for you.
Maybe you’ve been in the midst of a situationship for a few months now and still have no idea if it will ever become a defined relationship. You have strong chemistry and definitely have an emotional connection, too. You trust each other and have a great time together. But they still aren’t “ready” for a relationship and just want to “go with the flow” and see where it goes.
While this initially sounded like a promising arrangement, you have to admit you’re starting to feel insecure. You’re being less understanding about their hesitation. You’ve known each other for the same amount of time after all. You’re ready for a relationship with them. Why aren’t they ready for one with you?
As you mull over the question, you begin to realize how unappreciated you feel as well. You begin to feel the tears crawling up behind your eyes and they start falling down your face before you can stop them. You just want them to see your worth. You just want them to care. You just want them to commit.
Then they text you. It’s almost like they knew. You begin typing out The Paragraph Text™️ to let them know how they’re making you feel like total shit and that they don’t deserve you. But something tells you to stop. You backspace the message, put your phone on do-not-disturb for the night, and figure you’ll reply to them in the morning.
Morning arrives and it pops into your mind that maybe you shouldn’t reply for a while at all. You’ve heard about the no-contact rule before and determine that they can’t realize what they’re missing if they don’t get the chance to miss you. And so, you decide to go no contact. You don’t respond to their texts or phone calls. You don’t interact with them on social media.
Here’s the brutal truth about going no contact with your situationship: If you’re feeling the need to use the no-contact rule, it’s already over and has been for a while. Nothing about their feelings for you are going to change because you stop talking to them because you can’t control how someone else feels about you (and you honestly shouldn’t want to either).
Going no contact is only helpful for you to move forward. The no-contact rule will not make your situationship want to commit to you. Full stop.
And I know it hurts so much they didn’t want you the way you want them and I’m so sorry. But you deserve better than waiting for something that is never going to happen. You owe it to yourself to be honest with yourself about the reality of the situationship. Indecision is a decision and that decision is not you.
So, by all means, go no contact if you must but make sure you’re doing it for the right reason: to help you let go.