The ‘Sex and The City’ Characters Are All Of Us–Just Not In The Way We Think

Sex and the City was a hit the moment it first aired in 1998. Suddenly women were getting examples of female characters taking control of their sex lives without shame. Running through men one by one until you find the right one for you? Sign me up!

At the time, it was a regular party game to talk about which character you were. If you were a part of a four-person friend group, you’d inevitably be divvied by the characters of Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda. Old-fashioned about love and sex? You’re Charlotte. A writer obsessed with shoes who has questionable taste in men? You’re Carrie. But now that we know more about these people in the last 23 years, maybe there’s a new way Sex and the City and its new spin-off And Just Like That relates to the viewers. You aren’t Carrie or Samantha or Charlotte or Miranda. For better or worse, you’re Sarah, Cynthia, Kim, or Kristin.

Which one are you?

You’re Sarah Jessica Parker if you’re the Mean Girl Mastermind

Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie / And Just Like That

We all know that woman who’s shitty behind the scenes but an absolute “sweetheart” in mixed company. If you complain about her being a terror, no one believes you. It seems that’s the vibe Sarah Jessica Parker gave off for years. There were always on-set rumors that the girls shunned Kim Cattrall on set, but Parker would give interviews saying that wasn’t true. They were all great friends. Then in 2017 Kim Cattrall said in an interview that they were never friends and that “this is really where I take to task the people from Sex and the City, and specifically Sarah Jessica Parker. I really think she could’ve been nicer. I don’t know what her issue is.” It’s not a good look.

You’re Cynthia Nixon if you’re the Late-In-Life LGBT Bloomer

Cynthia Nixon as Miranda / Sex and the City

Cynthia Nixon, who played Miranda, spent the first part of her adult life married to Danny Mozes. After they divorced in 2003, Nixon had a little sexual awakening of her own, falling in love with her now-wife Christine Marinoni. She said of her late-in-life queer awakening, “I don’t really feel I’ve changed. I’d been with men all my life, and I’d never fallen in love with a woman. But when I did, it didn’t seem so strange. I’m just a woman in love with another woman.”

You’re Kim Cattrall if you’re the Girl Group Cast-Off

Kim Cattrall as Samantha / Sex and the City

Poor Kim Cattrall. Over the last 23 years, there have been constant on-set rumors–not just from Kim herself–that the other three women always left Cattrall out. They’d sit at another table during lunch. Heck, they even sat at a separate table at the Emmys. Eventually Cattrall just said “fuck it” and stopped being around the bad vibes. She said no thanks to Sex and the City 3 and the new And Just Like That reboot. Good for her. Never stick around people who make you feel like shit.

You’re Kristin Davis if you’re the Unproblematic Angel

Kristin Davis as Charlotte / Sex and the City

Oh sweet Kristin Davis, who plays equally sweet Charlotte. Aside from her connection to the on-set mean girl vibes, she’s been so thoroughly unproblematic over the years. It’s not that she’s not doing anything. She’s outspoken about how shitty tabloids can be about aging actresses and the racism she sees toward her adopted Black daughter. She’s also been vocal about her battle as a recovering alcoholic. She’s proof that you can be an interesting and varied human without being shitty.