Nowadays, I think a lot of people are lost when it comes to the meaning of “love” . People use the phrase “I love you” way too easily without understanding the real meaning of it. As a matter of fact, a lot of people might just be in love with the idea of “love”.
I believe you must first love yourself in order to truly understand what love means. I know it sounds cliché, but wouldn’t it be strange to be able to love someone if you can’t even love yourself first?
You can see why so many relationships fall apart so easily. You can be in a relationship even if you don’t love yourself, but it can be really hard and challenging to maintain a healthy relationship, and people don’t seem to have enough patience for it—especially in this generation where we have access to everything we want in an instant. I think the generation of instant gratification has made humans impatient and has been affecting relationships in so many ways.
People idealize a perfect relationship with someone they think they’re in love with, but you can’t have a perfect relationship if you don’t have a loving and genuine relationship with yourself in the first place. People want to avoid the difficult times in a relationship because it will soak up their energy and time. Yet people crave to be loved by someone else and try to fill the emptiness they carry in their heart. The truth is, you are the only person who can fill that emptiness.
You can only love someone after you learn and understand how to love yourself first.
It might not be easy to love yourself at times, but you need to embrace yourself and have patience. Because if you don’t have patience with yourself, how the heck can you have patience for someone else?
Once you learn how to love yourself, you will have a big heart to love someone for who they truly are, and learn how to make a relationship work, because now you know how it takes hard work to love yourself.
At times, it might be hard to love yourself, but remember that the wonderful things in life take time. Always cherish and love yourself first, and then you’ll see how it will change the dynamic to love someone in a way you have never imagined.