Anna Shvets

This Year, May You Let Go Of Fear-Based Love And Find One That Sets You Free

This year, may you let go of fear-based love and find a love that allows you to be free. You see, fear and love cannot coexist. May you find a calm love. May you find a confident love.

May you find a love that allows you to be yourself without shame and ridicule. May you find a love that says, “I don’t understand everything, but I’m willing to try.” May you find a love that’s willing to communicate through disagreement. May your love recognize that you are two people dancing, exploring and figuring out how you fit together in a world of unknowns.

May you find a love that realizes that you have bad days but aren’t a bad person. May you find a love that allows you to be free to express who you are. May you find a love that doesn’t try to cage you. May you find a love that challenges you to be better without making you feel not good enough.

Life puts strains on our relationships that feel out of our control, from job pressure, other people, financial burdens and raising children. May you find a love that has calculated those factors into the equation. May you find a love that sees tests as progress, not a cause for distress. May your love be one of resilience. 

May you find a love that has invisible strings that hold you together but enough room for you to be apart. May you find a love that understands your passion, dreams and desires. A love that understands you want to be held sometimes in the comfort of knowing that you chose each other.

May you find a love that gives you space to create, to wake up in the morning and work on your projects uninterrupted without wondering if something is wrong. May you find a love that doesn’t leave you anxious, wondering if one argument will lead to a crushing breakup. May your love be slow, steady, and realistic. 

May you find a love where two separate people come together and not lose themselves through enmeshment. May you find a love that’s built on a foundation brick by brick that knows you’ll work it out. May you find a love that holds you accountable for your growing and healing work and is growing right along with you. May you find a love that asks the right questions. May you find a love that endures truthful opinions and difficult conversations, because that’s how you break barriers.

May you find a love that brings delight. May you find a love where you can laugh at each other and through life. May you laugh through the moments where you’re upset, disappointed, or heavy-hearted. May you not take yourself too seriously. May you look for joy, because at the end of the day, life is too short for anything else.

This year, may you let go of fear-based love and find a love that allows you to be free. Freedom allows choice and may love choose you. May you find a love that allows you to soar, whose wings are expansive. May you surge upwards individually and alongside each other, weaving and winding but headed in the same direction. May you find a love that allows you to be free.