Things won’t always end the way you wholeheartedly believe they should. Sometimes you won’t be able to control it and all you can do is accept that. What matters perhaps even more is what you do next—because what happened is now out of your hands, but you have the ability to impact the future. Never underestimate your own power in shaping your life.
Sometimes we get so stuck in our self-made cycles and habits that we stop recognizing that they even exist. It’s important to make an effort to step out of your comfort zone and even your own self so that you can have a better understandings of the things you do simply because you’re used to doing them, not necessarily because they make you happy, and to figure out the things that are holding you back from reaching your potential.
It’s important to keep track of the kind of energy you’re putting into the world. You’re the kind of person who’s so expressive, so infectious, but unfortunately, that can come with a downside—because if you’re exuding negative vibes, it’s going to affect the people around you and ultimately hinder your own growth. This doesn’t mean you need to lean into toxic positivity, but it’s in your best interest to be mindful of how you interact with others and with yourself—and if something you’re doing seems more harmful than beneficial, it may be time to take a step back from it.
It’s okay to have down days. It’s okay to have times when you need to hide inside your shell until you feel ready to go out into the world again. It’s okay to be the person who needs someone. You’re not always going to have the energy to be the shoulder to cry on, the breadwinner, the healer, the safe space in the storm. Don’t put it on yourself to fix everyone else when you should be focusing on your own well-being.
Make an effort to focus on the things that make you feel good about yourself. Wear outfits that make you feel beautiful; spend your time on hobbies that make you feel talented; surround yourself with the people who recognize and value your efforts. More importantly, give yourself the validation you need. Sometimes even the people who shine like the sun need a confidence boost.
You have a way of questioning yourself, of doubting your own perceptions and even your own worth. It’s okay to feel uncertain at times, but it’s time to stop selling yourself short. If something doesn’t feel right, trust your intuition; if you don’t feel like you’re good enough for something, choose to believe in yourself anyway. This is how you unlock your inner power.
I hope you remember that when something doesn’t work out the way you wanted it to, it doesn’t mean that it wasn’t worth it. Sometimes what we want so badly in one moment becomes something that no longer aligns with our purpose somewhere down the road. Sometimes the person who is perfect for you in one season of your life becomes the person who holds you back from growing into who you need to become in the next. The success of something doesn’t necessarily hinge on its longevity but on how well it worked when it was working. It’s okay to honor the things that no longer serve you and still let them go.
I hope you remember that there are people in the world who will be able to see you fully, who will be able to understand all those parts of you that you feel are indiscernible—you might just not have met them yet. But when you assume that every person you meet are incapable of truly knowing you, you’re setting them—and yourself—up for failure. Give people the chance to see the real you. Choosing to open yourself up in this way can be terrifying, but when you find your people, it will be worth it.
Sometimes the only solution to not knowing where you’re going is to just simply keep going. You won’t always have your life mapped out in advance; sometimes you’ll find yourself lost in the midst of everything, but it does no good to stand still. It’s when you choose to keep putting one foot in front of the other that you’ll stumble across a path you never knew was there—one you never imagined you could find. Just keep going.
Sometimes your prejudices color the way you see the world. Sometimes you assume you know someone before you give them the chance to reveal themselves; sometimes you’re so sure you know how something will end before you let it play out. But when you assume the world will always play by your rules and your narrative, you risk missing out on some of the most beautiful parts of life—chance encounters, unexpected connections, beautiful accidents. Please don’t let them pass you by simply because you will not afford them the benefit of the doubt.
There is freedom in accepting that the only person that it is your duty to make happy is yourself. That doesn’t mean you should neglect your loved ones or refuse to ever compromise, it just means that it is not your job to bend over backwards just to appease others. Your life is entirely your own; it is not your job to conform to society’s idea of what it ought to look like.
Sometimes you get so let down by not getting what you hoped for that you blind yourself to the good that’s already there. It’s okay to be disappointed, just for a little bit, but remember: Life will rarely live up to the fantasy you build up in your head, but that doesn’t mean there won’t be surprising moments of beauty along the way. Sometimes they’ll be better than what you ever imagined—so don’t let them pass you by.