Sometimes what you’re able to do right now has to be enough. You have big ideas and a lot of passion, but sometimes that leads to you taking on more than you can chew. This can lead to expectations that are a little too high and a schedule that’s a little unrealistic if you don’t want to burn out. Nothing is worth ruining your mental health or peace over—remind yourself of that every time you feel the need to push yourself to the limit.
It’s difficult for you to compromise when you have a vision, but sometimes the smartest thing you can do is know when to fold. It doesn’t mean you’ve lost, it just means you’re willing to alter your ideals in the pursuit of the end goal. True failure would be refusing to budge for the sake of the greater good, so let go of some of that trademark Taurean stubbornness and keep the outcome in mind.
Sometimes you just have to let yourself fall in love for the sake of it. Sometimes you have to pursue a passion not for money but because it makes you feel fulfilled. Sometimes you have to throw caution to the wind and just have fun. Some people will make you feel silly for indulging in these small pleasures, but remember that your happiness ought to be a priority, not an afterthought.
Healing is often painful. Growth is often uncomfortable. The things we have to go through to get to where we want to be in life often aren’t as ideal as we’d hope. But that doesn’t mean it’s not worth it, and that doesn’t mean that just because it’s difficult now that it’ll be difficult forever. You are working through it and moving into a more beautiful space. You are going to be okay.
Never let your sense of pride get in your own way. Vulnerability can be scary, especially when it puts you in the position to get hurt, but sometimes we’re so afraid of being open or backing down that we’ll put our own happiness on the line. Anyone who may think less of you for it isn’t the sort of person you should factor into the outcome anyway.
Sometimes you get so caught up trying to be good enough for everyone else that you forget that some people aren’t good enough for you. You don’t have to please everyone or meet everyone’s expectations. You have an inherent worth that’s irrelevant to what others think of you, so instead of worrying that you might not be enough, start asking yourself if the people you’re letting into your life deserve the level of effort you’re willing to go to for them.
You’re never going to be able to be everything to anyone, and that’s not because you’re not good enough, it’s just that no one has that power. You are just a person, and you can be there for the ones you love, but you have to recognize that you are only one piece of the puzzle and the rest is up to them. You cannot fix them, you cannot be the root of their happiness, you can simply be there for them as they figure it out.
Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself and your mental wellbeing is just to walk away. Sometimes you have to stop giving in to the mind games, stop granting people access to you that they don’t deserve, and stop putting so much of yourself into something that’s not giving you anything back. Sometimes you have to be the one brave enough to call it quits—it may be difficult at first, even painful, but you’ll thank yourself in the end.
Sometimes we mistake toxicity for intensity and anxiety for excitement. Sometimes we’re so desperate to avoid boredom that we’ll throw ourselves headfirst into chaos. Sometimes we’re so afraid of what we’ll find in the stillness that we surround ourselves with noise. Just be careful that you don’t chase after all the wrong things just for that shot of adrenaline—and make sure that everything you’re running from aren’t actually the things that are good for you.
Slow down. You have a tendency to look five years into the future while neglecting the things that are right here right now. But the world won’t move faster just because your brain does, and someday you’re going to look back and regret the things you’ve missed along the way. There is still time to become everything you want to be, so take the time to enjoy where you are first.
Not everyone sees the world the way you do, but that’s a good thing. You have the power of showing people new ways to look at things and offering alternative viewpoints they may never have considered in the first place. You bring the world a touch of color, of magic. Never let anyone tell you your ideas aren’t important.
When you feel overwhelmed by the world, look for the people who bring you peace. You may feel like retreating from everything and everyone but know that there are people who want to be your safe space. Let yourself be comforted, loved, and seen—it can be a scary thing, but it’s there for you if you open yourself up to it.