Your person should be excited to embark on adventures with you. Even if you have different hobbies and interests and passions, they should be excited when you include them in your plans. You shouldn’t have to beg them to attend a certain concert or event with you. You shouldn’t have to spend hours convincing them why it’ll be worth their time or swear that you’ll make it up to them by doing something that they want next time. When someone loves you, they should be thrilled that you want them by your side. They should be willing to support you, to tag along if that’s what’s going to make you happy. After all, you would do the same for them.
You shouldn’t have to beg them to hang out with you or answer your texts in a timely manner. You shouldn’t have to spell out all the reasons why their neglect makes you upset. You shouldn’t have to get on your hands and knees, begging them to treat you right, to give you the bare minimum, to meet your absolute lowest expectations. Your person should be happy to be there for you in any way possible. They should want to support you, to encourage you, to tag along whenever they’re invited. They should be proud to be seen with you, to experience new sights with you.
You shouldn’t have to beg them to be a good partner. You shouldn’t have to teach them the proper way to behave to avoid breaking your heart. Yes, every relationship has a learning curve because everyone has different expectations and boundaries – but your person should understand the basics of how to treat you. They shouldn’t ignore your messages for days or skip out on events that mean the world to you. They shouldn’t treat you like a backup plan, like the person they hang out with when they don’t have anything better to do.
There’s a huge difference between someone showing up for you because they want to — or because they feel obligated, because they want to earn brownie points, because they want something to hold over your head in the future. There’s a huge difference between someone who acts engaged in your interests – and someone who complains the entire time, who whines about wanting to go home, who makes you feel guilty for including them when they would rather be doing anything else.
Your person should never make you feel like an inconvenience, like a bother, like a chore. They should never make you feel like you’re boring them or dragging them down or wasting their precious time. Your person should be excited to bring you to places and events that you’ve been daydreaming about seeing. Even if they don’t have the same interests as you, they should be happy to see you happy. They should still want to be involved.
You shouldn’t have to beg them to be there for you. The right person is going to show up without you needing to ask twice. They’re going to support you in every possible way.