Jasmin Chew

Your Story Must Go On With Or Without Some People

You owe it to yourself to go on with your story, even if you have to write it without some of the main characters. Even if you have to rewrite the whole thing, even if you have to replace the characters you loved the most, your story must go on and you must always be the hero. Like a show, your life story must go on regardless of the setbacks, the bumps in the road, and the people you lose along the way.

You owe it to yourself to let go of all the people and the situations that are not going to make it till the end, because that’s how you grow and that’s how you start thinking of other stories, other endings, other beginnings, and that’s how you begin changing and transforming. You will learn that to write a good story, you’re going to keep changing faces, places, and most of all, yourself.

You owe it to yourself to keep writing the story you were born to write, not the one others have written for you, not the one you were told to write, and definitely not the one that you do not like yourself in, because if your story is written to glorify others and victimize yourself, then this is not your story. If your story is written in a way where others always come first and you come last, then this is not your story. If your story is written in a way where you always lose so others can win, then it’s not your story, because you owe it to yourself to win.

You owe it to yourself to live a life you’re happy with and become a person you’re proud of, even if it means erasing a whole chapter or replacing every character in the book. Even if it means changing locations and starting over. Even if it means killing off your favorite characters if they’re no longer part of your story, because the only one you’re hurting by keeping people who no longer serve your story is you. The only one you’re hurting by rewriting the story to serve others, not yourself, is you. The only one you’re hurting by giving up your own power is you.

You owe it to yourself to keep writing no matter how hard things get. You owe it to yourself to find the courage to accept some facts that could make your story difficult, but that’s how you build an authentic story—it can be full of dreams and wishes being fulfilled, but it has to show some pain, some struggle, some unexpected disappointments, and some lows before the highs. You owe it to yourself to keep writing your story where you’re the only constant in it, because if you make it revolve around others, your story will collapse.

Your story must go on regardless of who makes it to the end with you, because some of your best stories begin the moment you realize that you’re enough on your own and you can make things happen. Eventually, by the end of each chapter, things will start making sense and you will finally realize that you’re in the middle of a masterpiece.