10 Men Get Vulnerable About Why They Hate Being A Dude

“Being completely invisible. It can be an advantage. When I want to I can go about my day in peace without interruptions from anybody. And sometimes you just want to slip into the background and be anonymous. But at the same time nobody asks you how you are doing, if you need help, or acknowledges that you exist at all. If you have problems you just have to deal with it yourself and get over it. On the plus side you get good at problem solving, but it can be mentally tiring and demotivating at times. A lot of men are completely starved for positive attention. Not just from women, but any kind of positive attention at all. The last time I heard anything positive about my appearance it was from grandma. It was 15+ years ago and I am pretty sure she was drunk. I talked with my wife about this a few years ago and she found it very weird and sad. After that she has started to say something positive from time to time to the people she works with. The first time she did it was one of her closest coworkers. He was completely dumbfounded by it. He knew very well that it was just a friendly compliment, but he said he didn’t really know how to handle it. Because he could not remember the last time something like that had happened.” — Ashtar-the-Squid

“As a single dad my son is generally excluded from things like park meetups or birthday parties because apparently I don’t fit in with the other parents. I’ve probably been told it a thousand times in a thousand variations. What they actually mean is I’m a man and mums don’t want me around because it’s generally just mums.” — wastelander78

“The automatic assumption that I just know about mechanics, carpentry, and DIY.” — grudthak

“Baldness. I miss having hair to run my fingers through. In my teen years I grew it out because I knew I wouldn’t have it for the rest of my life. I miss playing with it, I miss the warmth, and the cooling ( short hair actually acts as cooling fins compared to being bald and sweat just pouring off), I miss the sense of it being blown in the wind, I miss the slight protection against bumps and scrapes (cabinets are the bane of my existence).” — Ok-disaster2022

“It’s a pet peeve of mine, but how a lot of girls expect guys to approach them, or impress them. Guys are expected to go up to girls to start a conversation, or ask them out. Why? The Bumble dating app tried to reverse this by getting women to start conversations. All that did was get women to say ‘hey’ from my experience as a guy, if you reply with a ‘hey’ back, they don’t reply anymore. If a guy did that, I can tell you that the response would be split 50/50 (those that respond and those that don’t). But if a woman said ‘hey’, most guys will respond. Why? Because it feels good to be the one that gets the attention rather than having to give attention.” — sicaxav

“I hate how uncomfortable I can sometimes make women when walking alone at night. Like sometimes you can just tell when they start walking faster and try to give you a wide berth. I completely understand why, I don’t blame them. But it always makes me feel bad or like I should say something to ease the tension. But that’d probably make it worse.” — UninsuredToast

“Always having to be the stronger one, both mentally and physically. Sometimes it feels like, as a man, you’re not allowed to have feelings or emotions, but that movie is fucking sad and I didn’t want the dog to die either!” — Bigbenjidr

“Not being allowed to be awkward, bashful, or shy in adulthood. It’s labeled as weird and creepy. I’m also an attractive guy, so what someone looks like has nothing to do with this. It’s an expectation to be outgoing and whatever.” — Logical_Heat_2792

“The assumption you are always in the mood for sex. Sometimes I just don’t feel it and that should be good enough.” — GrillDealing

“Paternity leave, my wife got 12 months paid I got 2 weeks 😐 it’s just not enough. Baby wasn’t even settled in by then. 2 months old now and he’s just about settled in.” — bedlam90