10 Things Singles Put Too Much Emphasis On When Searching For Their Soulmate

Being single isn’t easy. Sometimes, you end up searching for the wrong things in a partner. According to married couples, here are some things they put too much emphasis on when they were searching for their soulmate:

“I cared too much about their job. Jobs and careers change consistently. Someone with just an okay job and no career path, but who has drive to improve, WILL improve.” — Simplycybersex

“I care too much about her hating certain foods that I loved. I thought it was going to be a gap we couldn’t bridge for a while. Turns out, you don’t always have to eat the same thing and it doesn’t affect anything else significant in the relationship.” — TheUnblinkingEye1001

“The whole ‘we like the same things! That must mean we are perfect together.’ Actually it was more because we had similar personalities and looked at life in a similar way. That was much more important than whether we both liked the same cheesy music choices…” — Xercies_jday

“Being his center of attention (and vice versa) all the time. 15 years later and we are insanely happy but our lives definitely don’t always revolve around one another.” — Ill_Illustrator9776

“I put way too much importance on how great the sex was in the beginning that a lot of incompatibility issues slipped by us. Not saying it’s not important but maybe look at what else is working and not working. Here’s a tip, if you go on a trip together and you are not having any fun when you are not having sex then maybe it’s time to call it off. I didn’t have a positive vacation experience outside of the bedroom and those got fewer and farther between once the kid came along.” — ivereadabookor2

“I thought looks mattered way more than they do, I spent most of my teenage years with zero self esteem because I’m overweight and not conventionally pretty and never dated until college. I met my now husband who also had self-esteem issues and both of us raised each other’s confidence and we both now know that the right person thinks you’re attractive no matter what you actually look like. Also we somehow made the most beautiful baby on the planet.” — specialkk77

“I cared too much about socializing WITH him and getting to know his friends. I should have focused on my own network and friends instead of the heartache of trying too hard to fit in with his circle. 10 years on and we’ve all grown and moved away and made our own lives. As long as his mates knew Hubs was happy, they were happy.” — Kaleela_B

“Not caring if they did or didn’t want kids, figuring once we are in love and married it will all ‘just work out’ and ‘love is all you need’. We weren’t The Beatles and you need far more than love, and no they won’t change their mind. Even if they do they may hold resentment.” — Big_Friendship_277

“Getting the total, perfect package. It doesn’t exist. I am not perfect. I have foibles. He isn’t perfect. He has foibles. It’s the love, respect, conversation, and connection that matters the most.” — Alternative-Poem-337

“When dating, I wanted someone that was into everything I was into at the time. I‘ve now come to realize that it is much more important to see them grow and affirm who they are as a person and enjoy getting to know them more and more each day.” — No_Baseball_7413