11 men reveal why they gave up on finding love
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11 Men Admit Why They Gave Up On Finding Their Soulmate

โ€œMaybe itโ€™s just my town or something but literally every girl I take a liking to is already dating someone and I usually find out the second I ask them out. Itโ€™s demoralizing.โ€ โ€” Koribbe

โ€œHave youย seenย the dating landscape lately? Between the frustration of online dating and people being in their own little bubbles in public, itโ€™s much less stressful to just be single and get a dog.โ€ โ€” DeathSpiral321

โ€œWhere to start? The constant ghosting, expectations to keep a conversation going when getting barely more than a few words in replies, the endless bots, and scammers on dating apps. I just found myself getting incredibly jaded about everything surrounding dating over the last 10+ years. In the end I just stopped trying, saw how bitter and miserable the whole process was making me when the apps are shadow banning and going 6+months without a single match then magically getting 5+ after being inactive for a few months. Old school methods donโ€™t help much either when you live like a hermit and gotten so use to doing everything on your own.โ€ โ€” kaldicuck

โ€œTo be honest Iโ€™d just rather be a little lonelier than deal with all the hassle of dating; Iโ€™m really not in a place emotionally and financially where I can deal with sorting through a bunch of misses to find a missus.โ€ โ€” YakootahEmerald

โ€œDating apps suck. People donโ€™t want to get to know each other on them, they want to be entertained. โ€œHelloโ€ and โ€œI see you like ..โ€ are considered boring. Meeting people IRL becomes difficult when you work nights and weekends.โ€ โ€” jackfaire

โ€œDating is like taking on a part time job, I donโ€™t have the time or the energy.โ€ โ€” LeiaBryce

โ€œI just live the single life, I mean I failed in the relationships I had a real chance with due to my myriad of mental issues I now work to manage. Issue is I am getting old and the dating pool just shrinks fast after a certain age, so now I just โ€˜retiredโ€™ from trying while working on keeping my mental problems from controlling my life. In a way it is liberating, I donโ€™t have to try for anyone except myself, so anything I put real effort into is solely for my own enjoyment.โ€ โ€” TrixieLurker

โ€œIโ€™m just tired. I feel like everyone I date has a laundry list of expectations for me. I just want to be seen as myself and not just a guy.โ€ โ€” Aggressive_Oil_464

โ€œEvery time I dated, I got cheated on. Self pity and comfort food led to size increases I am having trouble shaking which has led to me having trouble connecting or getting past the first date when I have tried.โ€ โ€” mcfear

โ€œI took some time off to reconsider things after some bad relationships. By the time I was interested again, the whole dating landscape had changed and I find the whole thing exhausting. Toss in how covid changed the ways people interact, switching jobs and lifestyles, and there just doesnโ€™t seem to be much opportunity for a man like me.โ€ โ€” BonnaroovianSky

โ€œI havenโ€™t necessarily given up forever but after getting out of a relationship last year I decided to take some time to work on myself. No dating apps and no effort put forth to meet anyone. Since then Iโ€™ve quit smoking weed, curbed my drinking to only on weekends, increased my level of fitness, took a writing class and was able to save enough money to backpack through Europe for 2 weeks. I leave next month. Iโ€™m definitely in a way better state of mind now but I still donโ€™t want to start dating. Sure, the loneliness and lack of intimacy get to me at times but overall Iโ€™ve really been enjoying the single life.โ€ โ€” PewpyDewpdyPantz