11 Singles Explain Why They Won’t Engage In Hookup Culture

“I’m really into intimacy and being affectionate but unfortunately that isn’t what hookup culture is about. Random hookups just aren’t fulfilling and left me feeling empty because I couldn’t be too affectionate or I would be deemed too emotional/wanting more.” — KindaLostButOk

“It just gets exhausting after a while, at least as a man. You’re constantly expected to arrange everything, you constantly have to keep a clean house on the off chance that you get lucky that day, you constantly have to pay for meals, and you constantly have to judge whether or not she’s starting to get too clingy and you need to break things off. It’s like being a circus ringleader.” — The_Law_of_Pizza

“I’m not nearly confident enough. Plus, it’s too risky. People withhold important information until after the deed is done (i.e. undisclosed STIs, being hardcore pro-life, I’m the side piece, etc.) Not saying it’s everyone, but I don’t want to potentially ruin my life for someone I don’t know.” — wizardgobrrrr

“I always end up hurt. I tell myself I won’t get hurt, but I always am. Some people aren’t meant for those kind of relationships and I think I’m just one of them.” — AwkwardBubbly

“I engaged in hookup culture for years and then stopped. Believe it or not, online dating was WAY, WAY, WAY better 20 years ago than today. The Golden Age of Online Dating was 2000 to 2010, no doubt, and I was right in the thick of it. There were no fake profiles, no scammers, no bots looking for love from afar. Just local people looking to hook up.” — Fresh-Hedgehog1895

“I tried it but stopped. My perspective is that, as a woman, I don’t get much out of hookup culture. Most of my encounters in my brief phase were not satisfactory or simply adequate. It just didn’t compare to the intimacy I’d had in relationships with men who knew my body and preferences. That being said, flings are fun. But I’d say one-night stands really aren’t that good. It’s more like scratching an itch. I realized that I’d much rather wait for my next relationship partner than to be continuously disappointed by one night stands” — zoopzoot

“In all honesty, it just never seemed that rewarding to me. I always wanted someone that would stick around.” — mymiddlenameswyatt

“I started online dating a number of years ago and was very surprised to see how easy it was to find hookups. A teenage me would have died for this. I started making the rounds and was loving it. Problem is it started to loose its spark. Just wasn’t something I was enjoying doing for long periods of time. Found myself preferring to stay home than have to actually go to the hookup. It just didn’t feel healthy so I stopped.” — Solid_Internal_9079

“I don’t feel attraction to people I don’t have an emotional bond to and feelings for. Even if I did, I still view sex as something very intimate, personal and private that I’d only be willing to share in a monogamous relationship with mutual love, trust and commitment.” — sadsledgemain

“The culture and the users age out. After 27, I felt disgusted with myself hooking up excessively. It gets awkward explaining being with excessive numbers of sexual partners. Personally, I began valuing emotional connection more with age. However was always monogamous and would ho out after a bad breakup to create emotional separation from an ex-girlfriend. It would get old after a few months.” — HornDogglerHorbo

“I consider sex to be a deeply intimate and inherently vulnerable act. So to do that with a stranger feels unsafe and unenjoyable for me.” — Sorry-birthday1