12 Old Married Couples Share The Unspoken Rules Of Successful Relationships
If you want your relationship to work out, there are a few key things that you should keep in mind. Here are some unspoken rules of a successful relationship:
“Respectfulness is often more important than the old saying about communication. Respecting your partner, being mindful of things they’re doing, etc. Learn when your partner is focused on something, and avoid interrupting them, etc. Respect each other’s need for free-time away from each other. Respect your partner enough to not trash the house, or force your partner to do all the household chores.” — Luckboy28
“Everybody always says to be honest and to communicate with each other. The extra step that is left out is to not punish your spouse for being honest. Sometimes you might hear things you don’t like, but if you punish this honesty, the communication line will close.” — brand790
“Trust isn’t just about believing your partner won’t lie or cheat on you. It also means believing they have your best interests at heart, giving them the benefit of the doubt as much as possible, and not needing to win arguments purely ‘on principle.’ You aren’t afraid of starting a slippery slope of laziness if you go ahead and take care of one of ‘their’ chores. You don’t try to punish each other’s mildly annoying quirks (even though you might make no secret of the fact that they annoy you.) You don’t say mean things behind each other’s’ back. You should be able to make your spouse your #1 priority without worrying that they’ll abuse it.” — GrandeWhiteMocha
“Don’t correct the other person unless it’s important. Otherwise it’ll just raise the level of irritation. More generally, pick your battles.” — Diana_of_Nemi
“There’s no ‘winning’ an argument when you’re married. You either come to an agreement somehow or you’ve both lost. A situation where one person walks away feeling discouraged, unheard, and disrespected is not a victory when you’re married.” — [deleted]
“Give each other space and alone time. If he wants to veg out and play video games for a couple hours let him. If she wants to unwind watching reality tv or reading books, let her. Don’t have to be connected at the hip to have a successful marriage.” — EpicBlinkstrike187
“Never make a big purchase without taking to your spouse about it and to never hold money against each other.” — mjs6448
“Love your partner the way they need to be loved, not the way you need to be loved.” — Malgayne
“Sometimes you’ll be helping each other poop or puke or both and cleaning it up. Don’t ever bring this back up to humiliate the other.” — lumpyoldpillow
“If one person voluntarily cleans something the other person is expected to not complain about how the job was done. They might not load the dishwasher the way you do, but they did load it. That is a win.” — [deleted]
“NEVER DISRESPECT YOUR PARTNER. NOT IN PUBLIC, OR IN CONVERSATIONS TO YOUR FRIENDS, OR IN FRONT OF THE KIDS, ETC.” — AlwaysWithTheOpinion
“50-50 doesn’t exist. In fact it’s harmful. What you’re looking for is 60-40: sometimes you get 60, sometimes you get 40.” — rio_jf